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For my husband and I it all began so innocently
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<blockquote data-quote="Acacia" data-source="post: 748306" data-attributes="member: 19832"><p>Yes, we seem to share this heartbreak in common - trying so hard to save our adult children who won't save themselves. Yes, substance abuse and mental illness often play a role, but each of us must face out shortcomings and find ways to overcome and heal. </p><p></p><p>Numb and Lost I have a similar story with my 33 year old difficult son. I have tried for years to offer support, I have spent thousands. Now I am 66 and retiring, and I am still recovering from a bad fall last year, and my husband (son's stepdad) will retire soon. I can't do it anymore. My son professes he cares about me as long as I am enabling him with rides, money, whatever. He has been through two rehabs this year and two sober houses. He got kicked out of both sober houses. He is always the wronged party, always has big plans, but he ends up homeless and without anything.</p><p></p><p>Sometimes I fall into such a funk, but I am more and more determined not to fall victim to the FOG. Damn, as an empath, it so easy to pull me in, and for me to latch onto that one glimmer of hope. </p><p>More and more I believe I must detach and love myself enough to have a life free of abuse and obligation.</p><p>Take care of yourself; you deserve it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Acacia, post: 748306, member: 19832"] Yes, we seem to share this heartbreak in common - trying so hard to save our adult children who won't save themselves. Yes, substance abuse and mental illness often play a role, but each of us must face out shortcomings and find ways to overcome and heal. Numb and Lost I have a similar story with my 33 year old difficult son. I have tried for years to offer support, I have spent thousands. Now I am 66 and retiring, and I am still recovering from a bad fall last year, and my husband (son's stepdad) will retire soon. I can't do it anymore. My son professes he cares about me as long as I am enabling him with rides, money, whatever. He has been through two rehabs this year and two sober houses. He got kicked out of both sober houses. He is always the wronged party, always has big plans, but he ends up homeless and without anything. Sometimes I fall into such a funk, but I am more and more determined not to fall victim to the FOG. Damn, as an empath, it so easy to pull me in, and for me to latch onto that one glimmer of hope. More and more I believe I must detach and love myself enough to have a life free of abuse and obligation. Take care of yourself; you deserve it. [/QUOTE]
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