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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 443151" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>Star,</p><p></p><p>I understand about the hate. I guess I haven't paid much attention to people hating her. You are correct, life is way to short to hate someone you never met and have no connection to. And as I explained before I certainly understand forgiveness so that one can go on with their life and be free of hate and anger. Hatred and anger just keeps us prisoners. Have I learned anything, gosh yes. I learned that there are more families out there like mine, that have a difficult child that has been a difficult child for years and her family knows it and they try and try to fix things, to get her to accept responsibility, to cover up perhaps out of embarassment, and yes to even try to control her. I learned that there but for the grace of god walk I. I learned that some of the things we have done with our difficult child did not help, some did. I learned that no matter what our difficult child does that we may hate or find abhorant, our natural instinct to protect and help causes us to do things we may regret or may not be the right thing to do. I learned that difficult child's cause much dysfunction in the family and people who do not have that in their lives don't understand.</p><p></p><p>Most of all I felt validated, that all I have lived through and all we have done is not unique to me, that there are so many other families out there going through their own person crisis and none of us knows how we would act in their shoes.</p><p></p><p>I agree that this same scenario goes on every day and it is not televised. The public interest is not there. Quite honestly I believe the six months prior to them finding the remains is what caused this one to be different. So many people looking for her and the family's reaction fueled interest. The protestors at their home, praying, preaching, screaming, holding signs, in my mind helped fuel the fire here, it brought out a lot of evil. Why were they there? It caused the news media to be more intersted in this than if they had left the family alone. Also, in all honesty, Casey's own lies made this case sensational. She deserves the credit for that. Let's be honest, this is a case like none other. Most times when children are killed by their parents, they don't lie about their whereabouts and hide the body in a swamp. They commit the act and it is found out quickly and they go to jail and have a trial and that's it. She needs to take the responsibility for helping turn this into a circus. She created the circus and the news media just picked up on it.</p><p></p><p>Anyway thanks for clarifying. I have been very interested in this case because this is what husband does. I feel the anxiety both sides are feeling now waiting for the verdict. I have seen that with my own eyes. I know at the end of the day one side will be satisfied and one side will be devastated and one family will never ever be the same. I guess for me, watching this case would never be a waste because it causes me to think and to feel. If it helped one family realize they are not alone or help them not close their eyes when they see something that doesn't seem right, it is worth it.</p><p></p><p>One more thought about not wanting to judge. The one jurist who said she didn't like to judge and there was someone higher than her that would judge, was told by Judge Perry that being a jurist means she will be asked to judge and if he told her she had to judge would she be able to do it. She answered yes and was seated. That certainly put it into perspective.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 443151, member: 59"] Star, I understand about the hate. I guess I haven't paid much attention to people hating her. You are correct, life is way to short to hate someone you never met and have no connection to. And as I explained before I certainly understand forgiveness so that one can go on with their life and be free of hate and anger. Hatred and anger just keeps us prisoners. Have I learned anything, gosh yes. I learned that there are more families out there like mine, that have a difficult child that has been a difficult child for years and her family knows it and they try and try to fix things, to get her to accept responsibility, to cover up perhaps out of embarassment, and yes to even try to control her. I learned that there but for the grace of god walk I. I learned that some of the things we have done with our difficult child did not help, some did. I learned that no matter what our difficult child does that we may hate or find abhorant, our natural instinct to protect and help causes us to do things we may regret or may not be the right thing to do. I learned that difficult child's cause much dysfunction in the family and people who do not have that in their lives don't understand. Most of all I felt validated, that all I have lived through and all we have done is not unique to me, that there are so many other families out there going through their own person crisis and none of us knows how we would act in their shoes. I agree that this same scenario goes on every day and it is not televised. The public interest is not there. Quite honestly I believe the six months prior to them finding the remains is what caused this one to be different. So many people looking for her and the family's reaction fueled interest. The protestors at their home, praying, preaching, screaming, holding signs, in my mind helped fuel the fire here, it brought out a lot of evil. Why were they there? It caused the news media to be more intersted in this than if they had left the family alone. Also, in all honesty, Casey's own lies made this case sensational. She deserves the credit for that. Let's be honest, this is a case like none other. Most times when children are killed by their parents, they don't lie about their whereabouts and hide the body in a swamp. They commit the act and it is found out quickly and they go to jail and have a trial and that's it. She needs to take the responsibility for helping turn this into a circus. She created the circus and the news media just picked up on it. Anyway thanks for clarifying. I have been very interested in this case because this is what husband does. I feel the anxiety both sides are feeling now waiting for the verdict. I have seen that with my own eyes. I know at the end of the day one side will be satisfied and one side will be devastated and one family will never ever be the same. I guess for me, watching this case would never be a waste because it causes me to think and to feel. If it helped one family realize they are not alone or help them not close their eyes when they see something that doesn't seem right, it is worth it. One more thought about not wanting to judge. The one jurist who said she didn't like to judge and there was someone higher than her that would judge, was told by Judge Perry that being a jurist means she will be asked to judge and if he told her she had to judge would she be able to do it. She answered yes and was seated. That certainly put it into perspective. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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