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For those whose children have mental issues, where to start getting help?
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<blockquote data-quote="JayPee" data-source="post: 763069" data-attributes="member: 23405"><p>Broken, you will get through this but it won't be easy and there will be 2 steps forward and 1 step back at times. It's ok. Just keep trying to do what you know is right. I remember when I was in therapy and I told her that I felt "guilty" going to buy myself fresh vegetables at the market. She was like "WHY?!" I said it's because they're sitting in their cars with hardly any food (I paid for food, gas, their used cars, cigarettes..you name it). I constantly felt like I should punish myself from any kind of joy (even buying fresh vegies) and should always remain in a state of mourning over their situations. I felt like I should not be happy if they weren't. She said, feeling guilty means you've done something wrong and she told me I most certainly hadn't. </p><p></p><p>Don't get me wrong, I still hurt when they hurt (as most of us parents do) but I have learned I am not responsible for anyone else's happiness. My sons are not responsible for mine either but by keeping myself in a state of mourning on their dire situation, I felt like it gave me some control or something...which is certainly didn't. </p><p></p><p>Getting through this is a full time job and requires a good support system. But it's all possible because when you realize it's YOU that needs to change, well that's something attainable.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JayPee, post: 763069, member: 23405"] Broken, you will get through this but it won't be easy and there will be 2 steps forward and 1 step back at times. It's ok. Just keep trying to do what you know is right. I remember when I was in therapy and I told her that I felt "guilty" going to buy myself fresh vegetables at the market. She was like "WHY?!" I said it's because they're sitting in their cars with hardly any food (I paid for food, gas, their used cars, cigarettes..you name it). I constantly felt like I should punish myself from any kind of joy (even buying fresh vegies) and should always remain in a state of mourning over their situations. I felt like I should not be happy if they weren't. She said, feeling guilty means you've done something wrong and she told me I most certainly hadn't. Don't get me wrong, I still hurt when they hurt (as most of us parents do) but I have learned I am not responsible for anyone else's happiness. My sons are not responsible for mine either but by keeping myself in a state of mourning on their dire situation, I felt like it gave me some control or something...which is certainly didn't. Getting through this is a full time job and requires a good support system. But it's all possible because when you realize it's YOU that needs to change, well that's something attainable. [/QUOTE]
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