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"Friends"...why is it so hard to get away from them?
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<blockquote data-quote="Jabberwockey" data-source="post: 638474" data-attributes="member: 18238"><p>Dont worry, she isnt upset with you. She was just a bit confused by some of your comments. Being significantly less prone to letting my emotions rule me, occupational hazzard along with the whole guy thing, I can assure you that Lil and dstc have the right of it. Our son talks a mean game about his "friends" but will let himself be abused by them rather than confront them. A good example of this would be, last summer if memory serves, he had just got some money and went to spend a day with "friends". When plans went wrong his friends blamed him and brow beat him into giving up his money, around $30 or so, as compensation for plans going awry. Rather than allow a confrontation he simply handed them the money then ranted at us about it for the next two days. </p><p> </p><p>He has commented to be before that he would rather have crappy friends than no friends at all. We have talked to him about this, reminding him that the (appologies for this phrase but just cant think of another way to put it) better class of people he used to hang with quit hanging with him because he started associating with the stoners. He has also made comments to the effect of not wanting to upset his current "friends" so they wont talk bad about him and give him a bad reputation. I firmly believe that, while he wants us to think that means just his reputation in general, he doesnt want to burn his bridges with the only people in town he can comfortably by drugs from. The second time he ran away I believe he learned the hard way not to owe a drug dealer. While he was gone, one of his friends (no quotes on this one because, while this friend doesnt appear to be the most respectable, he is actually quite respectful and pleasant.) showed up at our door asking if our son was there. He looked kind of upset so after telling him no I asked what was up. Our son had borrowed $60 from him to pay of a dealer that he owed money to in order to keep from being hurt. While it obviously hasnt stopped him from doing drugs, at least it looks like its made him more cautious with who he buys from.</p><p> </p><p>Quick explanation on "friends". Most of you have probably figured out that I'm being very generous with this term. At this point, all of his "friends" hang out with him because of what he could do for them. He had access to a vehicle, he had parents who were in denial so he could still get money from them in one form or another, things like that. Honestly, J-1 is the closest thing to an actual friend he has right now and at the best of times its......unhealthy....at the best of times for our son to hang out with him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Jabberwockey, post: 638474, member: 18238"] Dont worry, she isnt upset with you. She was just a bit confused by some of your comments. Being significantly less prone to letting my emotions rule me, occupational hazzard along with the whole guy thing, I can assure you that Lil and dstc have the right of it. Our son talks a mean game about his "friends" but will let himself be abused by them rather than confront them. A good example of this would be, last summer if memory serves, he had just got some money and went to spend a day with "friends". When plans went wrong his friends blamed him and brow beat him into giving up his money, around $30 or so, as compensation for plans going awry. Rather than allow a confrontation he simply handed them the money then ranted at us about it for the next two days. He has commented to be before that he would rather have crappy friends than no friends at all. We have talked to him about this, reminding him that the (appologies for this phrase but just cant think of another way to put it) better class of people he used to hang with quit hanging with him because he started associating with the stoners. He has also made comments to the effect of not wanting to upset his current "friends" so they wont talk bad about him and give him a bad reputation. I firmly believe that, while he wants us to think that means just his reputation in general, he doesnt want to burn his bridges with the only people in town he can comfortably by drugs from. The second time he ran away I believe he learned the hard way not to owe a drug dealer. While he was gone, one of his friends (no quotes on this one because, while this friend doesnt appear to be the most respectable, he is actually quite respectful and pleasant.) showed up at our door asking if our son was there. He looked kind of upset so after telling him no I asked what was up. Our son had borrowed $60 from him to pay of a dealer that he owed money to in order to keep from being hurt. While it obviously hasnt stopped him from doing drugs, at least it looks like its made him more cautious with who he buys from. Quick explanation on "friends". Most of you have probably figured out that I'm being very generous with this term. At this point, all of his "friends" hang out with him because of what he could do for them. He had access to a vehicle, he had parents who were in denial so he could still get money from them in one form or another, things like that. Honestly, J-1 is the closest thing to an actual friend he has right now and at the best of times its......unhealthy....at the best of times for our son to hang out with him. [/QUOTE]
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