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Gave daughter 2 weeks to move out
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 757310" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>I also think she and boyfriend need to move out. Why is HE even there? I learned late (my daughter was 30) that it hurts them and us more than helps when we enable unacceptable behavior for any reason. Borderline is treatable withe dialectal behavioral therapy. Very effective. But it requires strong motivation and the willingness to go to therapy and do the homework given.</p><p></p><p>Sometimes, in my case, I went against my husband to give Kay stuff because I thought it made her love me. It didn't but I was desperate. At least she would talk to me and call me if I offered her things. My husband and I almost divorced over this. Instead we got into counseling and joined Al Anon. Helped us be on the same page.</p><p></p><p>Never think you can buy a kids love. Contact doesn't mean love. Since we quit buying Kay stuff we haven't heard from her. We also can't force them to take care of their problems. They will do what they do. In your case I fear there will be a child, like in our case, and Kay held that child from us for a long time until he became too much of a burden for her and her useless husband to raise. He is very damaged and delayed and throws fits.</p><p></p><p>I hope you don't wait as long as we did to get it. Sending love and prayers</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 757310, member: 23706"] I also think she and boyfriend need to move out. Why is HE even there? I learned late (my daughter was 30) that it hurts them and us more than helps when we enable unacceptable behavior for any reason. Borderline is treatable withe dialectal behavioral therapy. Very effective. But it requires strong motivation and the willingness to go to therapy and do the homework given. Sometimes, in my case, I went against my husband to give Kay stuff because I thought it made her love me. It didn't but I was desperate. At least she would talk to me and call me if I offered her things. My husband and I almost divorced over this. Instead we got into counseling and joined Al Anon. Helped us be on the same page. Never think you can buy a kids love. Contact doesn't mean love. Since we quit buying Kay stuff we haven't heard from her. We also can't force them to take care of their problems. They will do what they do. In your case I fear there will be a child, like in our case, and Kay held that child from us for a long time until he became too much of a burden for her and her useless husband to raise. He is very damaged and delayed and throws fits. I hope you don't wait as long as we did to get it. Sending love and prayers [/QUOTE]
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