SW,
It's definitely difficult for us to accept our children and all their "brokenness". Our hearts ache to have a relationship that has equal respect and good communication.
It's important to release the tension in your forehead, release your clenched jaws, the knots in your neck, take a deep breath and surrender yourself and your daughter to God....over and over and over again so that through this ordeal both you and your daughter can have some hope for healing.
Sending prayers