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Gave my son is documents/wants college but no way
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 710829" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Day, remember if he can cash in money on a credit card, he will buy drugs so dont help him get one. Dont co-sign for him. I wouldnt even help him look. If he wants one that badly, he can get one on his own and do the work. He is smart. He doesnt need you to make decisions for him.</p><p></p><p>Once they turn 18 or so, we no longer have to be mother of the year. Dont even take his manipulation seriously. He wants a mommy, not a mother, someone to cheer his bad decisions, make excuses for him and most importantly help him get money without working for it. Any debt he incurs he wont pay. He cant. He doesnt have a job and has the expense of buying drugs.</p><p></p><p>Remember that he is not that once cute lttle boy who loved you so much with hugs and kisses. He is an adult male with a deep voice, an Adams apple, height, probably muscles and hair all over. Your mommy days are over. You cant kiss it and make it better. Yes, you still love him and always will but he is a man. The real world will treat him like one. </p><p></p><p>I feel you are thinking more clearly now. Think drugs until he has clearly been sober and productive for a few years. Otherwise any money he gets will not be used as you intended. You dont want to help him find creative ways to buy drugs, do you? I know you dont.</p><p></p><p>Have a great Easter. Try to detach today and have fun! You and your son are different people. You love him lots, but he is not you. Remember that and find peace.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 710829, member: 1550"] Day, remember if he can cash in money on a credit card, he will buy drugs so dont help him get one. Dont co-sign for him. I wouldnt even help him look. If he wants one that badly, he can get one on his own and do the work. He is smart. He doesnt need you to make decisions for him. Once they turn 18 or so, we no longer have to be mother of the year. Dont even take his manipulation seriously. He wants a mommy, not a mother, someone to cheer his bad decisions, make excuses for him and most importantly help him get money without working for it. Any debt he incurs he wont pay. He cant. He doesnt have a job and has the expense of buying drugs. Remember that he is not that once cute lttle boy who loved you so much with hugs and kisses. He is an adult male with a deep voice, an Adams apple, height, probably muscles and hair all over. Your mommy days are over. You cant kiss it and make it better. Yes, you still love him and always will but he is a man. The real world will treat him like one. I feel you are thinking more clearly now. Think drugs until he has clearly been sober and productive for a few years. Otherwise any money he gets will not be used as you intended. You dont want to help him find creative ways to buy drugs, do you? I know you dont. Have a great Easter. Try to detach today and have fun! You and your son are different people. You love him lots, but he is not you. Remember that and find peace. [/QUOTE]
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