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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 704197" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I concur with everybody else. Go on your trip. Do not be easily reachable. Check in 2x a week, with your ex, if you must.</p><p></p><p>Your son is consistently clear about his desired lifestyle. I cannot recall how many times there have been false starts at recovery, treatment, since you have been posting. He seems to use constructed emergencies or at the very least, take advantage of real ones, to get intensive attention and resources, and then bail. Every single time.</p><p></p><p>In retrospect these were not true crises. They were the natural consequences of his choices. Which he makes again and again and again. Caring less if he uses you, and runs you through the ringer. He could care less.</p><p></p><p>You deserve so much more. You have achieved so much in your time here. He plays you like a violin. Now you not only see it, you are able to stay committed to yourself. The guilt is the hardest to let go. But don't accept that from him. The cruelty of it. </p><p></p><p>Imagine a grown man as if taunting his mother that he prostitutes himself. I am offended for you.</p><p></p><p>Let him live his lifestyle. There is no judgement from me. He will like SF. If he is sociable and outgoing, he will have fun and there will be a lot of support. He could immerse himself in a fun, wild lifestyle, and it could work out for him. He will be in a milieu I which he feel he fits. I hope. Let him be.</p><p> </p><p>Go and have fun. We forgive him. But let him be. And you go be, too. It is time. The right time. Do it.</p><p></p><p>I almost think he pulls out all of the stops in order to MAKE you believe you do not deserve to have a life. That he deserves to sap every dime and dollar; every bit of energy, to as if consume you.</p><p></p><p>Go to Europe. I wouldn't even call. I would not. I would be free.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 704197, member: 18958"] I concur with everybody else. Go on your trip. Do not be easily reachable. Check in 2x a week, with your ex, if you must. Your son is consistently clear about his desired lifestyle. I cannot recall how many times there have been false starts at recovery, treatment, since you have been posting. He seems to use constructed emergencies or at the very least, take advantage of real ones, to get intensive attention and resources, and then bail. Every single time. In retrospect these were not true crises. They were the natural consequences of his choices. Which he makes again and again and again. Caring less if he uses you, and runs you through the ringer. He could care less. You deserve so much more. You have achieved so much in your time here. He plays you like a violin. Now you not only see it, you are able to stay committed to yourself. The guilt is the hardest to let go. But don't accept that from him. The cruelty of it. Imagine a grown man as if taunting his mother that he prostitutes himself. I am offended for you. Let him live his lifestyle. There is no judgement from me. He will like SF. If he is sociable and outgoing, he will have fun and there will be a lot of support. He could immerse himself in a fun, wild lifestyle, and it could work out for him. He will be in a milieu I which he feel he fits. I hope. Let him be. Go and have fun. We forgive him. But let him be. And you go be, too. It is time. The right time. Do it. I almost think he pulls out all of the stops in order to MAKE you believe you do not deserve to have a life. That he deserves to sap every dime and dollar; every bit of energy, to as if consume you. Go to Europe. I wouldn't even call. I would not. I would be free. [/QUOTE]
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