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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 411550" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>That's interesting about France! I always thought Europeans were more tolerant than here, but there is no uniformity here. People are different..there is judging, but not as much since we are so diverse. </p><p></p><p>Where did you adopt him from? I ask because I have four adopted kids (two from the US and one with special needs (autistic spessctrum disorder), one from Korea and one from Hong Kong. Certain countries are known for certain disorders...example: Kids adopted in Russia have a high rate of fetal alcohol problems. Kids adopted from India were often premature and there is a high rate of cerebal palsey. Kids adopted in the US, like my son, are often drug/alcohol exposed in utero and have issues due to that...like my son. We adopted him knowing he was different...and he has done well, but has had interventions since birth. He was VERY hyperactive when he was young, but that has changed. by the way, that is not really a big deal here. People accept those who are different if they are not behavior problems (my son isn't). Now behavior problems tend to be judged, like all over. "It has to be the parents." It usually isn't the paernts, but difficult children are judged. Rebellious teens are judged. But if a c hild has a form of autism people generally tend to be far more tolerant of "different" behaviors. And there is a lot of help.</p><p></p><p>I think testing for allergies is a good thing. Every little bit helps. I also doubt it's the whole big picture. You aren't telling us much about his history so it's hard to give any solid advice. You may want to do a signature like I did below. Was he exposed to substances in utero? Is he from another country? In the US, adoptions from Ethiopia, Russia, Korea, China, Inda etc. are common place and I'm in a big parent group...have been for over twenty years. I think I've head it all. Adopted kids tend to have a much higher rate of issues than biological children. They bring their baggage with them...their genetics. There is not only the fact that often the prenatal care was not good and that the biological parents often had mental health issues, but because adoption itself is often an issue. My bright fourteen year old daughter, who I am very close to, had a period of time when she was angry at her biol. mom for leaving her. She told me "Being adopted is a special need!" I know her birthmother and was able to get in touch with her and it turned out really well, but the kids do tend to wonder "Why was I given away? Who do I look like? Why am I good in sports or do I struggle in math?" I'm on my fourth adopted child and have also done some foster care.</p><p></p><p>One last thing: In the US adopted kids are thought of as different. I can't tell you how many times I've heard, "Where is her REAL mother?" Or "You're a saint to adopt THESE children." Um, no. I adopted them to enlarge our family and THESE children needed homes. So we needed each other. Did you adopt your child as an infant? A turbulent infancy and toddlerhood can cause attachment issues that look a lot like ADHD and ODD.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 411550, member: 1550"] That's interesting about France! I always thought Europeans were more tolerant than here, but there is no uniformity here. People are different..there is judging, but not as much since we are so diverse. Where did you adopt him from? I ask because I have four adopted kids (two from the US and one with special needs (autistic spessctrum disorder), one from Korea and one from Hong Kong. Certain countries are known for certain disorders...example: Kids adopted in Russia have a high rate of fetal alcohol problems. Kids adopted from India were often premature and there is a high rate of cerebal palsey. Kids adopted in the US, like my son, are often drug/alcohol exposed in utero and have issues due to that...like my son. We adopted him knowing he was different...and he has done well, but has had interventions since birth. He was VERY hyperactive when he was young, but that has changed. by the way, that is not really a big deal here. People accept those who are different if they are not behavior problems (my son isn't). Now behavior problems tend to be judged, like all over. "It has to be the parents." It usually isn't the paernts, but difficult children are judged. Rebellious teens are judged. But if a c hild has a form of autism people generally tend to be far more tolerant of "different" behaviors. And there is a lot of help. I think testing for allergies is a good thing. Every little bit helps. I also doubt it's the whole big picture. You aren't telling us much about his history so it's hard to give any solid advice. You may want to do a signature like I did below. Was he exposed to substances in utero? Is he from another country? In the US, adoptions from Ethiopia, Russia, Korea, China, Inda etc. are common place and I'm in a big parent group...have been for over twenty years. I think I've head it all. Adopted kids tend to have a much higher rate of issues than biological children. They bring their baggage with them...their genetics. There is not only the fact that often the prenatal care was not good and that the biological parents often had mental health issues, but because adoption itself is often an issue. My bright fourteen year old daughter, who I am very close to, had a period of time when she was angry at her biol. mom for leaving her. She told me "Being adopted is a special need!" I know her birthmother and was able to get in touch with her and it turned out really well, but the kids do tend to wonder "Why was I given away? Who do I look like? Why am I good in sports or do I struggle in math?" I'm on my fourth adopted child and have also done some foster care. One last thing: In the US adopted kids are thought of as different. I can't tell you how many times I've heard, "Where is her REAL mother?" Or "You're a saint to adopt THESE children." Um, no. I adopted them to enlarge our family and THESE children needed homes. So we needed each other. Did you adopt your child as an infant? A turbulent infancy and toddlerhood can cause attachment issues that look a lot like ADHD and ODD. [/QUOTE]
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