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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 497375" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>HI and welcome! Your post talks about your 11 yr old but you say THEY were saying these things... can you explain? Just wondering if you have several kids and they are all ganging up on you? your eleven yr old difficult child then, iwth hte ADHD probably taking it even further??</p><p></p><p></p><p>so why the diagnosis of conduct disorder? Since you have MST then I am assuming the courts are involved or at least a serious legal issue happened? </p><p></p><p>Not judging at all, believe me! Just wondering so we can get a picture of what is going on. How often do the therapists come, are they very into the reward/consequence stuff? Has that ever worked for difficult child-11 yr old? </p><p></p><p>Of course it occurred to me that there should be no electronics etc. until they have finished all homework each day. maybe even no electronics except on weekends with maybe the hours earned thru respectful behaviors. All that only assuming that these are behaviors they can pick and choose.</p><p></p><p>A red flag of interest is knowing your hubby is deploying... has this all increased since they found out?</p><p></p><p>The book many of us here like is called "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene... you can find and buy it anywhere, and I just got another copy on amazon.com really cheap...under $3 for a good used one. </p><p></p><p>It helps to look at behavior in a different way. If you google his name you will likely also go to his website where there are many helpful ideas and it is very different than the traditional reward/consequences kind of idea.</p><p></p><p>there are many other helpful books out there and I am sure others will chiime in.</p><p></p><p>My son said "bye b****" on the way to the bus this morning and really? YES it makes me tired and weary. But I have to look at the reasons this is happening and pick and choose the battles. I make lots of mistakes along the way. But there have been huge rewards by reaching out and asking for help like you are doing, and being willing to try new things.</p><p></p><p>Glad you found us.... hold on for the ride, there will be more friends/fellow warriors to come!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 497375, member: 12886"] HI and welcome! Your post talks about your 11 yr old but you say THEY were saying these things... can you explain? Just wondering if you have several kids and they are all ganging up on you? your eleven yr old difficult child then, iwth hte ADHD probably taking it even further?? so why the diagnosis of conduct disorder? Since you have MST then I am assuming the courts are involved or at least a serious legal issue happened? Not judging at all, believe me! Just wondering so we can get a picture of what is going on. How often do the therapists come, are they very into the reward/consequence stuff? Has that ever worked for difficult child-11 yr old? Of course it occurred to me that there should be no electronics etc. until they have finished all homework each day. maybe even no electronics except on weekends with maybe the hours earned thru respectful behaviors. All that only assuming that these are behaviors they can pick and choose. A red flag of interest is knowing your hubby is deploying... has this all increased since they found out? The book many of us here like is called "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene... you can find and buy it anywhere, and I just got another copy on amazon.com really cheap...under $3 for a good used one. It helps to look at behavior in a different way. If you google his name you will likely also go to his website where there are many helpful ideas and it is very different than the traditional reward/consequences kind of idea. there are many other helpful books out there and I am sure others will chiime in. My son said "bye b****" on the way to the bus this morning and really? YES it makes me tired and weary. But I have to look at the reasons this is happening and pick and choose the battles. I make lots of mistakes along the way. But there have been huge rewards by reaching out and asking for help like you are doing, and being willing to try new things. Glad you found us.... hold on for the ride, there will be more friends/fellow warriors to come! [/QUOTE]
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