N64bomb, thanks for your input. You've said several things I either think myself, or you've said them with a new perspective which is fresh.
I totally agree with what you say about cards on the table. It's sad she can't talk to me about issue she will discuss with her drug user friends. As I've mentioned elsewhere, she looks for safe opinions and conversations. A drug user is going to side with her on this one which is what she wants to hear.
The point about surely she would have set a tone in three years that she wants nothing to do with drugs to her best thing is another great point. I've ne'er thought about it like that. I've thought. What does this say about your friends opinion of you, but not how you worded it. It's a very valid point, and goes to what I said about I'm certain it's one answer for me, and likely the truth to her friends.
Re the emails, it wasn't an ideal thing to have to do. But history will prove that was the only way I would have found out the truth. That's a sad fact.
