David, you get offended awfully easy. I'm kind of offended by your stance. I have a daughter who used drugs once and your rigid, I-am-sure-I-am-right,I'm the good guy, and she did horrible things is NOT something that I am interested in hearing. This is a format for parents of troubled adult children, not advice to those in relationships who are in my opinion trying to control the partner. This is not a relationship forum, sir. Frankly, it doesn't sound to me like you are worried about anyone except yourself and your girlfriend's refusal to agree with your own moral compass. Our moral compasses are our own and we can not force others to agree with them. You'll need to learn that if you ever want a successful relationship unless you find a woman who is EXACTLY like you. Now enough advice to the lovesick from me.
If you'd be so kind, can you stop making flat judgments here, such as "it is better to be pro-cocaine than anti-cocaine." Some of our kids used or still use cocaine and we are struggling with this. in my opinion there really isn't any point to this post here. It isn't what the format is about. We are a support forum of parents who care about one another. You are pouring salt into many wounds, methinks. My daughter used cocaine, meth, etc. and I dare you to post here that she is inferior to you because I'll cyber-bite your head off. She's a wonderful young woman. In my opinion only (others may not agree) this is treading into dangerous territory and it is not about your child.
My daughter feels her trip through life, which included her teen years filled with drugs, helped her grow stronger because she learned many lessons along the way. I am a very proud parent and am glad she did not find somebody so judgmental of her. I can't wait until she gives birth to my first granddaughter in two months. She'll be a GREAT mother.
Mods, can this at least we moved to the Water Cooler?
