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God grant me the serenity, I need it now more than ever - Update
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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 516134"><p>Oh Nancy,</p><p></p><p>I wish I could just wrap you up in a real life hug!!! I guess a virtual one will have to do. My heart sank when I got on and saw the subject line. It is such an awful feeling to be disappointed again and to know you have been conned once again. As others have said my hope is that the periods of recovery she has had will hopefully steer her in that direction again sooner. She has hit bottom before and she will hit it again. My guess is it won't be long before she does that crash and burn and hopefully now she knows the way to pick herself up and find recovery again.</p><p></p><p>One thing I have learned from attending theh alanon meeting I go to.... is that this may in fact be a lifetime process. We all hope that our kids will somehow magically get it this time.... and so when they are doing well we hope this is it. I know I do that with my son. However I have met a number of parents at alanon whose kids were sober and in recovery for a good amount of time and then relapsed. I think this will always be a worry for us and they may never truly get it.</p><p></p><p>That thought is a very scary one for us as their mothers.... but what it means is we need to find a way to take care of ourselves, go on with our lives, to find ways to be happy in spite of the terrible choices our kids make and the terrible consequences they sometimes face. I have gotten hope from parents whose kids are still serious drug addicts who have found ways to still have fulfilling lives.</p><p></p><p>I was in church the other day (I am not really a religious person) and during one of the hymns it hit me that life is about what I am like as a person, it is about what I give to the world... it is not really about what happens to me or about what other people (including my son) does. It is about what I give and who I am. Not sure if that makes sense as it is still just the beginning of an epiphany for me.</p><p></p><p>I am thinking of you.......and sending many many good vibes for you and your own healing from the pain of all of this.</p><p></p><p>TL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 516134"] Oh Nancy, I wish I could just wrap you up in a real life hug!!! I guess a virtual one will have to do. My heart sank when I got on and saw the subject line. It is such an awful feeling to be disappointed again and to know you have been conned once again. As others have said my hope is that the periods of recovery she has had will hopefully steer her in that direction again sooner. She has hit bottom before and she will hit it again. My guess is it won't be long before she does that crash and burn and hopefully now she knows the way to pick herself up and find recovery again. One thing I have learned from attending theh alanon meeting I go to.... is that this may in fact be a lifetime process. We all hope that our kids will somehow magically get it this time.... and so when they are doing well we hope this is it. I know I do that with my son. However I have met a number of parents at alanon whose kids were sober and in recovery for a good amount of time and then relapsed. I think this will always be a worry for us and they may never truly get it. That thought is a very scary one for us as their mothers.... but what it means is we need to find a way to take care of ourselves, go on with our lives, to find ways to be happy in spite of the terrible choices our kids make and the terrible consequences they sometimes face. I have gotten hope from parents whose kids are still serious drug addicts who have found ways to still have fulfilling lives. I was in church the other day (I am not really a religious person) and during one of the hymns it hit me that life is about what I am like as a person, it is about what I give to the world... it is not really about what happens to me or about what other people (including my son) does. It is about what I give and who I am. Not sure if that makes sense as it is still just the beginning of an epiphany for me. I am thinking of you.......and sending many many good vibes for you and your own healing from the pain of all of this. TL [/QUOTE]
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