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<blockquote data-quote="bby31288" data-source="post: 607815" data-attributes="member: 182"><p>Such shard situation. Yes she has the ulcers and anxiety. But she proved over the summer she could handle the ulcer. It's a mix now. Part of it is a game to her. You know she has school anxiety. I do believe there are days she might be not feeling great. But I do believe she is using it to stay home and as an excuse for you. You know this because when you check in after you leave her home she is fine. She is playing you. But each time she stays home she is digging a bigger hole for herself and you. </p><p></p><p>How many days has she been absent already? There is still a really long time left. I'm probably not saying anything you don't know. </p><p></p><p>Plus you have your supervisor, a new vice principal. Your own anxiety must be high. Please try to take care of you </p><p></p><p>so on to difficult child. Do you call her bluff? If I remember the Gastro doctor said last year there was no "ulcer" reason she should miss school. I have multiple ulcers. I take daily medications. It has never caused me to miss work. As fir others I know. Which leaves you with the anxiety. Is age being treated for General Anxiety Disorder? I agree an IEP needs revision to protect her. But she needs to be in school. Home Schooling is ok but then the dumb anxiety wins. How will she learn skills to cope so she can hold a job and have a good productive life when she grows up. </p><p></p><p>My difficult child is now 21. She hated school had anxiety. Tried to stay home. I took a stance. Tough love. Forced her to go. Told her tough noodles. You NEED to be there. in my opinion you make her go. If she isn't feeling well she sees the nurse. No fever no home. Make the nurse/school the bad guy. Take the decision off you. 1 no matter how she is feeling, minus an active fever overnight that you confirm, she has to go to school. 2. If the nurse determines she is too sick to be there, she goes home. </p><p></p><p>She is going to try her hardest to stay home. Cry. Forcer herself to vomit. Tell you her ulcer hurts. She will try her hardest. But you repeat. Not going to school is not a compromise. She has to go. That's it. She will eventually get that you aren't going to cave in. Stand strong. I'm afraid you will lose your job over this. Or worse you will have to go in front of a judge and explain why you let her stay home. </p><p></p><p>I'm really sorry you are in this position. But difficult child knows she has you under her thumb. It's only going to get worse.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="bby31288, post: 607815, member: 182"] Such shard situation. Yes she has the ulcers and anxiety. But she proved over the summer she could handle the ulcer. It's a mix now. Part of it is a game to her. You know she has school anxiety. I do believe there are days she might be not feeling great. But I do believe she is using it to stay home and as an excuse for you. You know this because when you check in after you leave her home she is fine. She is playing you. But each time she stays home she is digging a bigger hole for herself and you. How many days has she been absent already? There is still a really long time left. I'm probably not saying anything you don't know. Plus you have your supervisor, a new vice principal. Your own anxiety must be high. Please try to take care of you so on to difficult child. Do you call her bluff? If I remember the Gastro doctor said last year there was no "ulcer" reason she should miss school. I have multiple ulcers. I take daily medications. It has never caused me to miss work. As fir others I know. Which leaves you with the anxiety. Is age being treated for General Anxiety Disorder? I agree an IEP needs revision to protect her. But she needs to be in school. Home Schooling is ok but then the dumb anxiety wins. How will she learn skills to cope so she can hold a job and have a good productive life when she grows up. My difficult child is now 21. She hated school had anxiety. Tried to stay home. I took a stance. Tough love. Forced her to go. Told her tough noodles. You NEED to be there. in my opinion you make her go. If she isn't feeling well she sees the nurse. No fever no home. Make the nurse/school the bad guy. Take the decision off you. 1 no matter how she is feeling, minus an active fever overnight that you confirm, she has to go to school. 2. If the nurse determines she is too sick to be there, she goes home. She is going to try her hardest to stay home. Cry. Forcer herself to vomit. Tell you her ulcer hurts. She will try her hardest. But you repeat. Not going to school is not a compromise. She has to go. That's it. She will eventually get that you aren't going to cave in. Stand strong. I'm afraid you will lose your job over this. Or worse you will have to go in front of a judge and explain why you let her stay home. I'm really sorry you are in this position. But difficult child knows she has you under her thumb. It's only going to get worse. [/QUOTE]
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