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<blockquote data-quote="mom_to_3" data-source="post: 419281" data-attributes="member: 30"><p>I can totally relate to what you are saying. Our difficult child daughter is the mother of our difficult child grandson. I have decided that what we do for our grandson is done with no concern for his difficult child mother or difficult child father at all. After all, who is really going to enjoy your time and gifts or who will miss out the most if you don't spend time with them or buy thoughtful gifts? That's right your innocent grandchildren.</p><p></p><p>Our grandson is high maintenance just like his mother was/is. The boy wears me out! He is a bundle of nonstop energy and he talks so much that my ears are tired! I am truly wiped out after he visits! But you know what? That little boy, my grandson, absolutely loves me and the time he is with us. He is valued here. He gets home cooked meals here. He is taught manners. He is in a clean organized home. He participates in family activities. He is praised for his efforts. He is a priority. We are his only opportunity to learn what stability is. We are his opportunity to learn that he has options in life. We are his "ears".</p><p></p><p>Aiden spent this weekend with us. We took him to a friends BBQ where there were many children. He ran and played and ran and played and ate lots of food. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> He doesn't get the opportunity to be around other children at his home other than school. He had soooo much fun! When we left the BBQ he was still on cloud nine and with the biggest grin on his face said, that was AWESOME! I had so much fun! That comment alone was worth a million $$$$.</p><p></p><p>What we offer him is so very basic, yet so VERY important. It matters to him and it definitely makes a huge difference in HIS life and ours. We all only get one chance in this life and as I've gotten older and wiser, I've decided that *I* will do what *I* need to do to get by, regardless of our difficult child. I could hold a lot of (justified) anger towards our difficult child, but I would probably be hurting myself and my grandson by choosing that path. I control what I can and do my best to ignore the negativity.</p><p></p><p>You have a lot to offer your difficult child grandchildren too. Ignore their parents, they have to answer for themselves someday. Maybe you could take one child at a time to make it less overwhelming? The time you give your grandchildren will be cherished and remembered forever and it will make a difference.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mom_to_3, post: 419281, member: 30"] I can totally relate to what you are saying. Our difficult child daughter is the mother of our difficult child grandson. I have decided that what we do for our grandson is done with no concern for his difficult child mother or difficult child father at all. After all, who is really going to enjoy your time and gifts or who will miss out the most if you don't spend time with them or buy thoughtful gifts? That's right your innocent grandchildren. Our grandson is high maintenance just like his mother was/is. The boy wears me out! He is a bundle of nonstop energy and he talks so much that my ears are tired! I am truly wiped out after he visits! But you know what? That little boy, my grandson, absolutely loves me and the time he is with us. He is valued here. He gets home cooked meals here. He is taught manners. He is in a clean organized home. He participates in family activities. He is praised for his efforts. He is a priority. We are his only opportunity to learn what stability is. We are his opportunity to learn that he has options in life. We are his "ears". Aiden spent this weekend with us. We took him to a friends BBQ where there were many children. He ran and played and ran and played and ate lots of food. :) He doesn't get the opportunity to be around other children at his home other than school. He had soooo much fun! When we left the BBQ he was still on cloud nine and with the biggest grin on his face said, that was AWESOME! I had so much fun! That comment alone was worth a million $$$$. What we offer him is so very basic, yet so VERY important. It matters to him and it definitely makes a huge difference in HIS life and ours. We all only get one chance in this life and as I've gotten older and wiser, I've decided that *I* will do what *I* need to do to get by, regardless of our difficult child. I could hold a lot of (justified) anger towards our difficult child, but I would probably be hurting myself and my grandson by choosing that path. I control what I can and do my best to ignore the negativity. You have a lot to offer your difficult child grandchildren too. Ignore their parents, they have to answer for themselves someday. Maybe you could take one child at a time to make it less overwhelming? The time you give your grandchildren will be cherished and remembered forever and it will make a difference. [/QUOTE]
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