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<blockquote data-quote="Ephchap" data-source="post: 34671" data-attributes="member: 27"><p>Thanks, DDD. Yes, this senior facility is wonderful in that they have one large building that is for independent living (which is where mom will hopefully fit in at this point), and they also have a separate assisted living facility, and also take patients with demetia. Because they have the assisted living facility, there is always a nurse available, even for those living in the independent apartments if needed.</p><p></p><p>The sad fact is that my mom allowed this to continue on and on and on and one until it was going to kill both she and my brother. We had many teary conversations while all this was going on, and she would keep telling me that she wasn't as strong as me. Strong? I sure didn't feel strong when I signed my 14 year old in against his will and while the door was shutting he was screaming that he hated me.</p><p></p><p>But ... watching my brother and what it has done to my mom, I know that if I had to do it all over again, I would again let him know that living with me like that was not an option. My mother, bless her heart, somehow thought she was helping. She wasn't. My brother knew that even if he was drunk as a skunk for weeks on end, that my mother would be there to help make sure he was okay. If she wasn't there, perhaps he would have had to sober up. Who knows.</p><p></p><p>Have I mentioned lately how much I hate substance abuse and what it does to the entire family? Ughhhh.</p><p></p><p>Janet, yes, you're right - I don't want this for my difficult child's brother and sister either. I often tell my children that same thing.</p><p></p><p>My difficult child thought I came down really hard on him in sending him to an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) twice (once at 14 and once at 17), but it's because I watched my brother do this to my parents over and over again that it made me stronger in not tolerating the drug use.</p><p></p><p>Thanks again for your support. Hopefully after two months away, my brother can stay on the wagon this time and turn things around.</p><p></p><p>Deb</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ephchap, post: 34671, member: 27"] Thanks, DDD. Yes, this senior facility is wonderful in that they have one large building that is for independent living (which is where mom will hopefully fit in at this point), and they also have a separate assisted living facility, and also take patients with demetia. Because they have the assisted living facility, there is always a nurse available, even for those living in the independent apartments if needed. The sad fact is that my mom allowed this to continue on and on and on and one until it was going to kill both she and my brother. We had many teary conversations while all this was going on, and she would keep telling me that she wasn't as strong as me. Strong? I sure didn't feel strong when I signed my 14 year old in against his will and while the door was shutting he was screaming that he hated me. But ... watching my brother and what it has done to my mom, I know that if I had to do it all over again, I would again let him know that living with me like that was not an option. My mother, bless her heart, somehow thought she was helping. She wasn't. My brother knew that even if he was drunk as a skunk for weeks on end, that my mother would be there to help make sure he was okay. If she wasn't there, perhaps he would have had to sober up. Who knows. Have I mentioned lately how much I hate substance abuse and what it does to the entire family? Ughhhh. Janet, yes, you're right - I don't want this for my difficult child's brother and sister either. I often tell my children that same thing. My difficult child thought I came down really hard on him in sending him to an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) twice (once at 14 and once at 17), but it's because I watched my brother do this to my parents over and over again that it made me stronger in not tolerating the drug use. Thanks again for your support. Hopefully after two months away, my brother can stay on the wagon this time and turn things around. Deb [/QUOTE]
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