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Happy Mother's Day---She wants to come home
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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar I" data-source="post: 44080" data-attributes="member: 3755"><p>I hope she does come home. If it were me, I would use this time before the decision is finalized to get on the same page with husband about your expectations where difficult child is concerned. Then, right after you tell her how pleased you are that she is coming home, tell her what the rules and consequences are.</p><p></p><p>Right now, when she wants to come home but isn't there yet, you have a power you will no longer have, once the move has been accomplished.</p><p></p><p>We always wished we had done that, but were always so filled with hope, and so trusting that difficult child wanted to improve his situation (or why would he be coming home?).</p><p></p><p>And it was really awful (for us ~ and I hope your situation is different). Without knowing what our own rules or expectations were, difficult child took over like a steamroller. Little by little we found ourselves in one unbelieveable situation after another.</p><p></p><p>Every time, just to reclaim our own lives, we wound up paying for everything difficult child needed to go live somewhere else.</p><p></p><p>How DO you feel about her coming home?</p><p></p><p>Do you see any problem areas that could be addressed now?</p><p></p><p>Barbara</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar I, post: 44080, member: 3755"] I hope she does come home. If it were me, I would use this time before the decision is finalized to get on the same page with husband about your expectations where difficult child is concerned. Then, right after you tell her how pleased you are that she is coming home, tell her what the rules and consequences are. Right now, when she wants to come home but isn't there yet, you have a power you will no longer have, once the move has been accomplished. We always wished we had done that, but were always so filled with hope, and so trusting that difficult child wanted to improve his situation (or why would he be coming home?). And it was really awful (for us ~ and I hope your situation is different). Without knowing what our own rules or expectations were, difficult child took over like a steamroller. Little by little we found ourselves in one unbelieveable situation after another. Every time, just to reclaim our own lives, we wound up paying for everything difficult child needed to go live somewhere else. How DO you feel about her coming home? Do you see any problem areas that could be addressed now? Barbara [/QUOTE]
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