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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 766380" data-attributes="member: 4152">Your story is so sad and&nbsp;&nbsp; maddening. These aren't exactly the right words...but it's as close as I can get. Similar (if not the same) as how I feel about my own situation. A little update: Our daughter has been moving constantly. For a long time, it was various states. Of late, it is within the same state. And very recently, between two cities within the same state. One city, is the one we live in and she is currently in our city. She has been diagnosed with a concerning health problem. Although, we are not certain, we suspect she will stay put for awhile because she is concerned about this and needs our help making doctor appts. with specialists. Which we did and she has one coming up in a month or so. We haven't invited her for Christmas for a few years due to a few things: a giant horrible fiasco about three years back and she is 100 percent of the time extra problematic on Christmas. However, due to the fact that some time has passed, she is currently in our city , has been a bit more pleasant recently and she has this concerning health problem, she has been given an invitation. My husband told her if she brings drama to us on Christmas (like usual) she will be UN invited for two years...possibly more.&nbsp; Her coming here has caused me much angst. 100 percent is a horrible statistic. Last year she spent Christmas with her bio family and we think that went more or less ok...although we don't think she got an invite this year. Perhaps she can go every other year? It is on our minds. We do not help her with her living conditions and they have been difficult for her. We do help her in a limited way&nbsp; with medical needs.&nbsp; She has been on and off respectful/appropriate...but more &quot;on&quot; the last month...best guess, again, incentivized by her health issues and the holiday.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 766380, member: 4152"] Your story is so sad and maddening. These aren't exactly the right words...but it's as close as I can get. Similar (if not the same) as how I feel about my own situation. A little update: Our daughter has been moving constantly. For a long time, it was various states. Of late, it is within the same state. And very recently, between two cities within the same state. One city, is the one we live in and she is currently in our city. She has been diagnosed with a concerning health problem. Although, we are not certain, we suspect she will stay put for awhile because she is concerned about this and needs our help making doctor appts. with specialists. Which we did and she has one coming up in a month or so. We haven't invited her for Christmas for a few years due to a few things: a giant horrible fiasco about three years back and she is 100 percent of the time extra problematic on Christmas. However, due to the fact that some time has passed, she is currently in our city , has been a bit more pleasant recently and she has this concerning health problem, she has been given an invitation. My husband told her if she brings drama to us on Christmas (like usual) she will be UN invited for two years...possibly more. Her coming here has caused me much angst. 100 percent is a horrible statistic. Last year she spent Christmas with her bio family and we think that went more or less ok...although we don't think she got an invite this year. Perhaps she can go every other year? It is on our minds. We do not help her with her living conditions and they have been difficult for her. We do help her in a limited way with medical needs. She has been on and off respectful/appropriate...but more "on" the last month...best guess, again, incentivized by her health issues and the holiday. [/QUOTE]

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