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<blockquote data-quote="So Very Drained" data-source="post: 766438" data-attributes="member: 33830"><p>So can someone tell me just how - for the ninetieth time - you tell your son &quot;no more&quot;?&nbsp; I've done it so many times and caved.&nbsp; I read this thread from start to finish.&nbsp; I too have taken an Ativan to get through the chaotic times because sometimes I just can't handle it on my own.&nbsp; It doesn't happen often but knowing I have the Ativan helps to keep me steady.&nbsp; Anyway, I told him a week ago (when I sent him $580 so he could pay his hotel rent through Christmas) that 2025 was going to be a new year for me.&nbsp; I told him I have to start worrying about myself and my future and the money train is over.&nbsp; Two days later he asked if I wanted to buy his daughter chicken tenders and fries for her dinner (he shares custody) and I said &quot;no&quot;.&nbsp; He uses the &quot;it's for her&quot; card a lot and it's a killer.&nbsp; But I have to be done.&nbsp; I HAVE to be. Should I write a statement and send it to him?&nbsp; It's my fault that he doesn't believe that I'm done because I've told him so many times before.&nbsp; Interesting how his Dad (my ex) is able to say no and it's just okay?&nbsp; His Dad's car broke down, he bought a new house and had no extra money, etc. etc. - and he accepts it.&nbsp; Please tell me how anyone tells their adult child they're done.&nbsp; I know the sticking to it part is on me.....</p></blockquote><p></p>

[QUOTE="So Very Drained, post: 766438, member: 33830"] So can someone tell me just how - for the ninetieth time - you tell your son "no more"? I've done it so many times and caved. I read this thread from start to finish. I too have taken an Ativan to get through the chaotic times because sometimes I just can't handle it on my own. It doesn't happen often but knowing I have the Ativan helps to keep me steady. Anyway, I told him a week ago (when I sent him $580 so he could pay his hotel rent through Christmas) that 2025 was going to be a new year for me. I told him I have to start worrying about myself and my future and the money train is over. Two days later he asked if I wanted to buy his daughter chicken tenders and fries for her dinner (he shares custody) and I said "no". He uses the "it's for her" card a lot and it's a killer. But I have to be done. I HAVE to be. Should I write a statement and send it to him? It's my fault that he doesn't believe that I'm done because I've told him so many times before. Interesting how his Dad (my ex) is able to say no and it's just okay? His Dad's car broke down, he bought a new house and had no extra money, etc. etc. - and he accepts it. Please tell me how anyone tells their adult child they're done. I know the sticking to it part is on me..... [/QUOTE]

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