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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 737293" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>Hi Copa,</p><p></p><p>I'm getting caught up on some posts I've missed. You have tried so very hard for your son. You have afforded him many options and opportunities. You truly have left no stone un-turned. </p><p>I know the deep heartache you feel. I've been there with my son. The highs and lows I went through with my son robbed me of so much energy. As you know, I've been successfully detached from my son for quite some time and in doing that I have been able to move on and live my life for myself. </p><p>In the beginning it all felt so foreign and wrong. How could I be happy while my son was living a homeless life? Would I ever be able to stop worrying and wondering? It took time but I was able to move past those emotions. </p><p>I will never stop hoping that someday my son will choose to live a different life, one that is more conventional, one that does not involve being homeless, one that involves him having a job, one where he an I might be able to go to lunch and have an actual conversation that does not turn into my son wanting to argue and dominate.</p><p>Yes, there is always hope but as I've said before, I allow myself to hold onto 1% of that hope. Hope is wonderful thing but must be tempered with reality. </p><p>All the horrible things your son has said to you, I too have been on the receiving end of venomous, hateful comments from my son. Know this, deep down in your son and mine, they do not really mean those things. They are unhappy with their lives and we, the moms are the easiest target for their misplaced anger. That is what it is, their misplaced anger. I know with my son, his pride and ego get in the way. He would never want to admit that he is the one who has messed up his own life, I mean really admit it. Of course over the years he has had "humble" moments where he is contrite and has expressed how he knows he needs to change but that has always just been a ploy to manipulate.</p><p></p><p>Copa, you sound good, you sound strong, you are moving in the right direction. Oh, and by the way, you are so not a loser! What you are is a kind, loving mother who has done everything within her power to set her child on the right path. You are also someone who has shared so much on these pages, you have touched peoples lives in a good way. </p><p></p><p>Sending you ((HUGS)) today dear lady.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 737293, member: 18516"] Hi Copa, I'm getting caught up on some posts I've missed. You have tried so very hard for your son. You have afforded him many options and opportunities. You truly have left no stone un-turned. I know the deep heartache you feel. I've been there with my son. The highs and lows I went through with my son robbed me of so much energy. As you know, I've been successfully detached from my son for quite some time and in doing that I have been able to move on and live my life for myself. In the beginning it all felt so foreign and wrong. How could I be happy while my son was living a homeless life? Would I ever be able to stop worrying and wondering? It took time but I was able to move past those emotions. I will never stop hoping that someday my son will choose to live a different life, one that is more conventional, one that does not involve being homeless, one that involves him having a job, one where he an I might be able to go to lunch and have an actual conversation that does not turn into my son wanting to argue and dominate. Yes, there is always hope but as I've said before, I allow myself to hold onto 1% of that hope. Hope is wonderful thing but must be tempered with reality. All the horrible things your son has said to you, I too have been on the receiving end of venomous, hateful comments from my son. Know this, deep down in your son and mine, they do not really mean those things. They are unhappy with their lives and we, the moms are the easiest target for their misplaced anger. That is what it is, their misplaced anger. I know with my son, his pride and ego get in the way. He would never want to admit that he is the one who has messed up his own life, I mean really admit it. Of course over the years he has had "humble" moments where he is contrite and has expressed how he knows he needs to change but that has always just been a ploy to manipulate. Copa, you sound good, you sound strong, you are moving in the right direction. Oh, and by the way, you are so not a loser! What you are is a kind, loving mother who has done everything within her power to set her child on the right path. You are also someone who has shared so much on these pages, you have touched peoples lives in a good way. Sending you ((HUGS)) today dear lady. [/QUOTE]
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