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<blockquote data-quote="LauraH" data-source="post: 737645" data-attributes="member: 22877"><p>It doesn't get easier in many ways because as a parent most of us aren't wired to completely shut our children as we would a negative toxic neighbor, friend or acquaintance. But I've learned the hard way that you can disengage emotionally and not be part of their drama and that does make it easier on some levels. You can't save your daughter, she's the only one that can do that. It's a shame that having a baby wasn't enough to wake her up to reality. I was older, in my early 30s, when I had my son. Before that I made some irresponsible decisions (never to the point of homelessness, though) and lived to hang out with my friends. Work was just something i did to pass the time until I could get to the party. Having my son and being a single mom forced me to grow up overnight. I gave up the partying, started making better choices, and never looked back. </p><p></p><p>You did the right thing in my opinion. Your daughter is so young, hopefully she can get things together sooner rather than later. All you can do is love her and help her when it's appropriate and won't enable her to continue as she is. Can she have the baby in the shelter with her? We have a couple of shelters for families only, one is an old motel that was turned into a shelter where each family gets its own room rather than a dorm-like situation.Your focus now has to be on yourself, your sanity, and your precious grandchild.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LauraH, post: 737645, member: 22877"] It doesn't get easier in many ways because as a parent most of us aren't wired to completely shut our children as we would a negative toxic neighbor, friend or acquaintance. But I've learned the hard way that you can disengage emotionally and not be part of their drama and that does make it easier on some levels. You can't save your daughter, she's the only one that can do that. It's a shame that having a baby wasn't enough to wake her up to reality. I was older, in my early 30s, when I had my son. Before that I made some irresponsible decisions (never to the point of homelessness, though) and lived to hang out with my friends. Work was just something i did to pass the time until I could get to the party. Having my son and being a single mom forced me to grow up overnight. I gave up the partying, started making better choices, and never looked back. You did the right thing in my opinion. Your daughter is so young, hopefully she can get things together sooner rather than later. All you can do is love her and help her when it's appropriate and won't enable her to continue as she is. Can she have the baby in the shelter with her? We have a couple of shelters for families only, one is an old motel that was turned into a shelter where each family gets its own room rather than a dorm-like situation.Your focus now has to be on yourself, your sanity, and your precious grandchild. [/QUOTE]
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