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Harsh words and a tough order-how do we play this?
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<blockquote data-quote="CAmom" data-source="post: 23634" data-attributes="member: 1835"><p>Merris, I've read some of your posts, and you're road is SO much tougher than mine is...yet. If would be a miracle if you didn't cave now and then. And it's always easier to give advice than take it. </p><p></p><p>When my son finally called last night after his threats to blow his program last week when he found that we weren't going to be visiting him for 30 days, I somehow managed to do exactly what you suggested and fake it when he started his brief rant about how another boy had also been put on a 30-day no-visitor blackout, "but HIS parents visited ANYWAY!" I was thinking, well, now how STUPID is that! But, all I said was that WE intended to follow his easy child's instructions to the letter as we've told him over and over. Surprisingly, he dropped it and moved on to talk about how he was working to make his status!</p><p></p><p>I had been feeling really depressed all day yesterday, just waiting for the phone to ring to have his easy child tell me that he had kept his threat to "go crazy and do something bad to get terminated." And, sadly, I wouldn't have been surprised to hear that he had as he can be SO spiteful when thwarted. </p><p></p><p>So, I was waiting to hear the bad news and was very surprised to hear him actually talking about working for his status rather than continuing his threats to fail the program. </p><p></p><p>So, maybe his easy child is right, and the "tough love" approach is going to work. I can see that the key is staying very neutral and letting him face the consequences of his actions on his own as you suggested, Merris.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CAmom, post: 23634, member: 1835"] Merris, I've read some of your posts, and you're road is SO much tougher than mine is...yet. If would be a miracle if you didn't cave now and then. And it's always easier to give advice than take it. When my son finally called last night after his threats to blow his program last week when he found that we weren't going to be visiting him for 30 days, I somehow managed to do exactly what you suggested and fake it when he started his brief rant about how another boy had also been put on a 30-day no-visitor blackout, "but HIS parents visited ANYWAY!" I was thinking, well, now how STUPID is that! But, all I said was that WE intended to follow his easy child's instructions to the letter as we've told him over and over. Surprisingly, he dropped it and moved on to talk about how he was working to make his status! I had been feeling really depressed all day yesterday, just waiting for the phone to ring to have his easy child tell me that he had kept his threat to "go crazy and do something bad to get terminated." And, sadly, I wouldn't have been surprised to hear that he had as he can be SO spiteful when thwarted. So, I was waiting to hear the bad news and was very surprised to hear him actually talking about working for his status rather than continuing his threats to fail the program. So, maybe his easy child is right, and the "tough love" approach is going to work. I can see that the key is staying very neutral and letting him face the consequences of his actions on his own as you suggested, Merris. [/QUOTE]
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