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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 738033" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi. I am sorry you keep playing this game and he leads you into it. The girl is not the problem. He will just find another addict without her. In fact if he werent an addict they would not be together. He picked her on purpose. He may have asked her to sell his things for drug money. Very common with addicts. Everything you buy is sold or often they claim it was stolen. The point is for you to feel bad and buy them more stuff they can sell.</p><p></p><p>Unfortunately your husband cant help your son or rescue him and every time you do it he becomess less, not more of a man. Men take care of themselves, especially addicts who want to get clean. They dont call daddy and mommy. They dont ask for money. Cash in the hands of an addict, be it ten bucks or twelve hundred bucks is for one purpose only........to buy drugs. Did he steal anything? A big risk there when an addict is in your house alone.</p><p></p><p>I am sorry for your newest disappointment. He is not in quit mode or you would see it beyond a desperate phone call with a likely made up story. He can go to a rehab and get help. He knows the drill. Being of age, he can do it without you. He calls you for pity, money, a place to steal from, a short break from the street etc. Your husband can not fix his life. He has to do it.</p><p></p><p>I know hub's heart is in the right place. That just isnt a good way to deal with a drug addict. Please dont use up your retirement trying to fix your son. Do you have other kids to focus on who are in a better places? Grands? Hobbies? Good friends? House projects,? Passions? Vacations you long to take? Take them!</p><p></p><p>I recommend therapy, Al Anon or both. This helped me a lot. A neutral third party can be priceless. It wont cure your son but it can teach you to cope and to have a good life in spite of your sons struggles. You dont need to go down the tubes with your son. You shouldnt! You are imortant too! You matter.</p><p></p><p>Love and light!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 738033, member: 1550"] Hi. I am sorry you keep playing this game and he leads you into it. The girl is not the problem. He will just find another addict without her. In fact if he werent an addict they would not be together. He picked her on purpose. He may have asked her to sell his things for drug money. Very common with addicts. Everything you buy is sold or often they claim it was stolen. The point is for you to feel bad and buy them more stuff they can sell. Unfortunately your husband cant help your son or rescue him and every time you do it he becomess less, not more of a man. Men take care of themselves, especially addicts who want to get clean. They dont call daddy and mommy. They dont ask for money. Cash in the hands of an addict, be it ten bucks or twelve hundred bucks is for one purpose only........to buy drugs. Did he steal anything? A big risk there when an addict is in your house alone. I am sorry for your newest disappointment. He is not in quit mode or you would see it beyond a desperate phone call with a likely made up story. He can go to a rehab and get help. He knows the drill. Being of age, he can do it without you. He calls you for pity, money, a place to steal from, a short break from the street etc. Your husband can not fix his life. He has to do it. I know hub's heart is in the right place. That just isnt a good way to deal with a drug addict. Please dont use up your retirement trying to fix your son. Do you have other kids to focus on who are in a better places? Grands? Hobbies? Good friends? House projects,? Passions? Vacations you long to take? Take them! I recommend therapy, Al Anon or both. This helped me a lot. A neutral third party can be priceless. It wont cure your son but it can teach you to cope and to have a good life in spite of your sons struggles. You dont need to go down the tubes with your son. You shouldnt! You are imortant too! You matter. Love and light! [/QUOTE]
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