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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 633155" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Never give up. I truly did not believe that my daughter was going to change. I had given up. It made me sick inside, but I did not know what was going on in her head. Distance helped me and her. She actually moved to another state, away from all the criminals in her life and had no car so, per her brother, she had to get work and walk to and from. She had to pay rent. If she so much as lit up a cigarette in his house, she'd be out. He can be one big a*****e and very self-righteous and she knew it so she believed he'd follow through on his threats, although she did not believe that we (parents) would. So she decided to listen to him and without a car, and knowing she'd be on the streets if she snuck out at night, she did what he told her to do and sometime detoxed in his basement with her new and straight boyfriend helping her. She didn't tell anyone except boyfriend, who is still with her.</p><p></p><p>It was a miracle she isn't dead. Now that she is clean she told us all about it. She lived at home most of the time and, when she was finally tossed, she lived with her brother, so she never really experienced street life, yet the mishaps that she experienced were the same as if she had been homeless. She had a safe place to live, yet she tempted fate and played dangerous games in the streets at night. Living with us did not shield or protect her one bit. When you rub elbows with drug addicts (and she claims all users also sell) you are rubbing elbows with a bunch of people who NEED money for drugs and have no morals because of their habits. Her life was threatened many times over. There was nothing we could have done for her to change that as long as she kept on running on the streets. The short times she spent at home did not shield her. The police frequented our house and each time they came by, my little ones were terrorized. My youngest was so influenced by her sister that she has never yet taken a drink or tried any drugs at all...in fact, she is an athlete and is very hard on anyone who "misbehaves." She is going into Criminal Justice and is just beginning college.My older daughter is glad that her sister learned. "I would kick her b*** if she did drugs," she says.</p><p></p><p>Anything can happen...that is why it's so pointless to try to control another person, even a beloved adult child. I never saw this sudden change coming. I was heavy into Twelve Step by then and had detached as much as I could from the drama. I still had two really small children to raise. I had a loving husband. I owed them all I could give them. I gave my daughter to God, as I understand God, and I asked my higher power to please watch over her and guide her and to give me peace.</p><p></p><p>This prayer is my motto. I even had a necklace with this prayer etched on it when Daughter was such a mess:</p><p></p><p>"God grant me the SERENITY to accept the things I can not change,</p><p>The COURAGE to change the things I can,</p><p>And the WISDOM to know the difference."</p><p></p><p>I still have this prayer on my refrigerator as a magnet and I say this out loud every morning and night.</p><p></p><p>Peace to you tonight. May you know you did all you could for your son, he knows right from wrong, and until the time is right, you can only hand him over to God or fate or whatever your beliefs are. But it is out of our hands as parents, as hard as that is to face. (((Hugs to you)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 633155, member: 1550"] Never give up. I truly did not believe that my daughter was going to change. I had given up. It made me sick inside, but I did not know what was going on in her head. Distance helped me and her. She actually moved to another state, away from all the criminals in her life and had no car so, per her brother, she had to get work and walk to and from. She had to pay rent. If she so much as lit up a cigarette in his house, she'd be out. He can be one big a*****e and very self-righteous and she knew it so she believed he'd follow through on his threats, although she did not believe that we (parents) would. So she decided to listen to him and without a car, and knowing she'd be on the streets if she snuck out at night, she did what he told her to do and sometime detoxed in his basement with her new and straight boyfriend helping her. She didn't tell anyone except boyfriend, who is still with her. It was a miracle she isn't dead. Now that she is clean she told us all about it. She lived at home most of the time and, when she was finally tossed, she lived with her brother, so she never really experienced street life, yet the mishaps that she experienced were the same as if she had been homeless. She had a safe place to live, yet she tempted fate and played dangerous games in the streets at night. Living with us did not shield or protect her one bit. When you rub elbows with drug addicts (and she claims all users also sell) you are rubbing elbows with a bunch of people who NEED money for drugs and have no morals because of their habits. Her life was threatened many times over. There was nothing we could have done for her to change that as long as she kept on running on the streets. The short times she spent at home did not shield her. The police frequented our house and each time they came by, my little ones were terrorized. My youngest was so influenced by her sister that she has never yet taken a drink or tried any drugs at all...in fact, she is an athlete and is very hard on anyone who "misbehaves." She is going into Criminal Justice and is just beginning college.My older daughter is glad that her sister learned. "I would kick her b*** if she did drugs," she says. Anything can happen...that is why it's so pointless to try to control another person, even a beloved adult child. I never saw this sudden change coming. I was heavy into Twelve Step by then and had detached as much as I could from the drama. I still had two really small children to raise. I had a loving husband. I owed them all I could give them. I gave my daughter to God, as I understand God, and I asked my higher power to please watch over her and guide her and to give me peace. This prayer is my motto. I even had a necklace with this prayer etched on it when Daughter was such a mess: "God grant me the SERENITY to accept the things I can not change, The COURAGE to change the things I can, And the WISDOM to know the difference." I still have this prayer on my refrigerator as a magnet and I say this out loud every morning and night. Peace to you tonight. May you know you did all you could for your son, he knows right from wrong, and until the time is right, you can only hand him over to God or fate or whatever your beliefs are. But it is out of our hands as parents, as hard as that is to face. (((Hugs to you))) [/QUOTE]
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