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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 722232" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Me too, LBL. I think small acts of kindness are good. On our terms. Being able to do this without sinking into the abyss is key.</p><p>The article on detachment here speaks of detaching with love. It is not a cold hearted complete cutting off. It is a recognition that there are situations that are completely out of our control. That we do have the right (duty?) to establish boundaries of what is unacceptable in the sanctity of our homes.That we are not the cause of our beloveds issues, their choices are. We cannot shield them from the consequences of their choices, they won't learn. We shouldn't have to continually suffer with their choices, either.</p><p> It is the same for me, and my two. Over and again, they have shown me that living with me is not an option. I read the article and thought how confusing this all is. I guess it is a testimony that there is no ONE way. What is not mentioned is what this mother had to put up with through her sons recovery in her home. Was it her reaching out to him that worked? (Tried that) Did she have to put up with lying and stealing?</p><p>Me too.</p><p>Stay strong LBL.</p><p> Oh no, I am so sorry, LBL. "There by the grace of God, go I."</p><p>There are so many examples around us of people facing adversity with strength and grace. I think it is about how we all view life, living with an attitude of gratitude and positivity.</p><p> I don't know what is harder Pasa, to have this shoved in our face (my Rain, for a time, lived in a tent up the road from us) or to just not know how our d cs are faring.</p><p>The screaming and destruction, that I do know.</p><p>That old song "You are Always on my Mind" plays in my head.</p><p>So, I have to turn that into the only thing I can do in the moment, pray.</p><p> Agree completely. Keep your proverbial headlights on. I sunk a bit around the time of my Tornados birthday, but then reminded myself that her choices have led her to some very dark places. You guys helped me through, too.</p><p> Keeping my headlights on and daily prayer that she see the light helps.I pray all of our d cs see the light.</p><p>Like your son, mine have shown me the results of having them in my home.</p><p>Simply does not work, for them, or for me.</p><p>Truth.</p><p>It does not mean that I am always a pillar of strength, quite the opposite!</p><p>What a journey we are all on.</p><p></p><p>Another day, it is early morning here and I am off to work.</p><p>Take care friends, may we all find peace and joy.</p><p></p><p>My theme today instead of "moth to the flame" is Phoenix rising out of the ashes.</p><p></p><p>Aloha and</p><p>(((HUGS)))</p><p>Leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 722232, member: 19522"] Me too, LBL. I think small acts of kindness are good. On our terms. Being able to do this without sinking into the abyss is key. The article on detachment here speaks of detaching with love. It is not a cold hearted complete cutting off. It is a recognition that there are situations that are completely out of our control. That we do have the right (duty?) to establish boundaries of what is unacceptable in the sanctity of our homes.That we are not the cause of our beloveds issues, their choices are. We cannot shield them from the consequences of their choices, they won't learn. We shouldn't have to continually suffer with their choices, either. It is the same for me, and my two. Over and again, they have shown me that living with me is not an option. I read the article and thought how confusing this all is. I guess it is a testimony that there is no ONE way. What is not mentioned is what this mother had to put up with through her sons recovery in her home. Was it her reaching out to him that worked? (Tried that) Did she have to put up with lying and stealing? Me too. Stay strong LBL. Oh no, I am so sorry, LBL. "There by the grace of God, go I." There are so many examples around us of people facing adversity with strength and grace. I think it is about how we all view life, living with an attitude of gratitude and positivity. I don't know what is harder Pasa, to have this shoved in our face (my Rain, for a time, lived in a tent up the road from us) or to just not know how our d cs are faring. The screaming and destruction, that I do know. That old song "You are Always on my Mind" plays in my head. So, I have to turn that into the only thing I can do in the moment, pray. Agree completely. Keep your proverbial headlights on. I sunk a bit around the time of my Tornados birthday, but then reminded myself that her choices have led her to some very dark places. You guys helped me through, too. Keeping my headlights on and daily prayer that she see the light helps.I pray all of our d cs see the light. Like your son, mine have shown me the results of having them in my home. Simply does not work, for them, or for me. Truth. It does not mean that I am always a pillar of strength, quite the opposite! What a journey we are all on. Another day, it is early morning here and I am off to work. Take care friends, may we all find peace and joy. My theme today instead of "moth to the flame" is Phoenix rising out of the ashes. Aloha and (((HUGS))) Leafy [/QUOTE]
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