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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 738688" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I agree with t.l.above. The importance of support with boundaries. She is very strong. Me. Not so much</p><p></p><p>I came to a point where I had descended to the same level as my son. I followed him down.</p><p></p><p>It was not so much that I saved myself. I did not. But I had to take responsibility for what I had become. And that that was about me.</p><p></p><p>My center of gravity. My locus of control had become him. I had to disengage.</p><p></p><p>My heart is broken.</p><p></p><p>There is an old children's book. I think the title is:. The places we'll go.</p><p></p><p>There was another book. Runaway bunny. Where the mama reassures her baby bunny there is noplace he can run where she will not follow.</p><p></p><p>The book reassures both child and mother that their bond holds as the baby explores the world while wanting to hold mama's skirt.</p><p></p><p>This is where we are.</p><p></p><p>There are places we cannot go. We know that now. Do they?</p><p></p><p>Part of this is they need to know that. That when they choose that life, they lose us for a time.. Because they have gone somewhere we cannot go. That is not wrong. It is real.</p><p></p><p>They leave us. We cannot go.</p><p></p><p>We are still there. But they must return to us..</p><p></p><p>This is the hardest thing I have ever gone through.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 738688, member: 18958"] I agree with t.l.above. The importance of support with boundaries. She is very strong. Me. Not so much I came to a point where I had descended to the same level as my son. I followed him down. It was not so much that I saved myself. I did not. But I had to take responsibility for what I had become. And that that was about me. My center of gravity. My locus of control had become him. I had to disengage. My heart is broken. There is an old children's book. I think the title is:. The places we'll go. There was another book. Runaway bunny. Where the mama reassures her baby bunny there is noplace he can run where she will not follow. The book reassures both child and mother that their bond holds as the baby explores the world while wanting to hold mama's skirt. This is where we are. There are places we cannot go. We know that now. Do they? Part of this is they need to know that. That when they choose that life, they lose us for a time.. Because they have gone somewhere we cannot go. That is not wrong. It is real. They leave us. We cannot go. We are still there. But they must return to us.. This is the hardest thing I have ever gone through. [/QUOTE]
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