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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 738809" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Remember that words are verbal vomit, addicts like to make us feel sorry for them so we throw them money to be able to afford their substance of choice .in his case alcohol.</p><p></p><p>Actions show intent, not words.</p><p></p><p>If he wants so badly tu quit why on earth leave rehab??? That makes NO sense and contradicts his words. As does finding an apartment above a bar and by a bunch of bars. Words mean nothing. They use them to get sympathy and our money. What action has your son taken to show he desperately wants to quit?</p><p></p><p>The suicide threat is powerful. If i hear it I call 911. Usually it never ever happens. Just often used to scare us into sending more money and other stuff. Did it criss your mind that maybe he is taking other drugs too? My daughter was a skeleten on meth. She never ate either. I thought she would die too and I wasnt going to help her die by offering money for drugs or a comfortable roof over her head so that she had no incentive to stop.</p><p></p><p>Smart people can become addicts. Addiction is rampant in the medical field. My dads partner at his store, a pharmacy, died of a drug overdose. I worked at a doctors answering service before texting and we had to call them and we knew who the achooholics were. One was a surgeon. Yes, scary. There is no immunoty to substance abuse. Intelligence has nothing to do with it. You maybe can afford good help, but you have to want it or nothing will work.</p><p></p><p>Your son is so far a sad story. He can change but he needs to go through a total attitude adjustment to change. But he can.</p><p></p><p>Before we married, my husband had an alcoholic friend who got DTs if he tried to stop, which was not often. His wife left. A decade later my hub found him on FB looking healthy and saying he is clean. It can happen but HE has to decide to do it. All your research is a waste of time. He knows where to go .And its not an apartment above a bar. His actions speak loud. His words are just noise. Having a talk with an addict is talking to a liar and manipulator. It is part of the disease.</p><p></p><p>I know. You love him and will worry but what worked best here was to back off and let her know we will never give her money for drugs. Any money you may send will be used for alcohol until he is clean and sober. Dont get sucked in. That wont help. Dont visit. It hurts you.</p><p></p><p>Do take that poor cat and rehome it in a good family yourself. Dont trust a shelter. The cat will die. Its not the cats fault.</p><p></p><p>Love and light!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 738809, member: 1550"] Remember that words are verbal vomit, addicts like to make us feel sorry for them so we throw them money to be able to afford their substance of choice .in his case alcohol. Actions show intent, not words. If he wants so badly tu quit why on earth leave rehab??? That makes NO sense and contradicts his words. As does finding an apartment above a bar and by a bunch of bars. Words mean nothing. They use them to get sympathy and our money. What action has your son taken to show he desperately wants to quit? The suicide threat is powerful. If i hear it I call 911. Usually it never ever happens. Just often used to scare us into sending more money and other stuff. Did it criss your mind that maybe he is taking other drugs too? My daughter was a skeleten on meth. She never ate either. I thought she would die too and I wasnt going to help her die by offering money for drugs or a comfortable roof over her head so that she had no incentive to stop. Smart people can become addicts. Addiction is rampant in the medical field. My dads partner at his store, a pharmacy, died of a drug overdose. I worked at a doctors answering service before texting and we had to call them and we knew who the achooholics were. One was a surgeon. Yes, scary. There is no immunoty to substance abuse. Intelligence has nothing to do with it. You maybe can afford good help, but you have to want it or nothing will work. Your son is so far a sad story. He can change but he needs to go through a total attitude adjustment to change. But he can. Before we married, my husband had an alcoholic friend who got DTs if he tried to stop, which was not often. His wife left. A decade later my hub found him on FB looking healthy and saying he is clean. It can happen but HE has to decide to do it. All your research is a waste of time. He knows where to go .And its not an apartment above a bar. His actions speak loud. His words are just noise. Having a talk with an addict is talking to a liar and manipulator. It is part of the disease. I know. You love him and will worry but what worked best here was to back off and let her know we will never give her money for drugs. Any money you may send will be used for alcohol until he is clean and sober. Dont get sucked in. That wont help. Dont visit. It hurts you. Do take that poor cat and rehome it in a good family yourself. Dont trust a shelter. The cat will die. Its not the cats fault. Love and light! [/QUOTE]
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