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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 738835" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I would be scared too about the gun store.</p><p></p><p>But the thing is, you looked.</p><p></p><p>When we intrude on their privacy and lives we do not like what we see.</p><p></p><p>The thing is. There is a basic learning here that each of us has to come to. The separation into two distinct lives. Theirs and ours. Almost all of us have fuzzy boundaries because we come here afraid and desperate.</p><p></p><p>But the thing is you are the one who will have to decide no more cosigning. And follow thru. Of course he will not like it.</p><p></p><p>But he was right to be peeved about the 2nd job. it is his life. He is not responsible because you decided to cosign. You are. You and I get no control, no vote, in theirs. They are adults. The learning is to stay in our own lane. And to let them deal with theirs.</p><p></p><p>Oh. It is so so hard. But in time we accept the reality there is no other way.</p><p></p><p>You sound so much better. I am so glad you checked in. We really care about you here. You are doing great. I hope you keep posting.</p><p></p><p>Take care. </p><p></p><p>PS. I am glad you are going home.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 738835, member: 18958"] I would be scared too about the gun store. But the thing is, you looked. When we intrude on their privacy and lives we do not like what we see. The thing is. There is a basic learning here that each of us has to come to. The separation into two distinct lives. Theirs and ours. Almost all of us have fuzzy boundaries because we come here afraid and desperate. But the thing is you are the one who will have to decide no more cosigning. And follow thru. Of course he will not like it. But he was right to be peeved about the 2nd job. it is his life. He is not responsible because you decided to cosign. You are. You and I get no control, no vote, in theirs. They are adults. The learning is to stay in our own lane. And to let them deal with theirs. Oh. It is so so hard. But in time we accept the reality there is no other way. You sound so much better. I am so glad you checked in. We really care about you here. You are doing great. I hope you keep posting. Take care. PS. I am glad you are going home. [/QUOTE]
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