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<blockquote data-quote="RN0441" data-source="post: 738852" data-attributes="member: 15032"><p>Just catching up. </p><p></p><p><strong>I had to accept that my son could die from his addiction.</strong> I mean really accept it. I had to do this for myself. I had to FACE the absolute worse case scenario. Once I truly did that, I was able to take a step back emotionally. I know that may sound crazy but I did do this.</p><p></p><p>We were able to force our son into a faith based program because we left him with no options. We told him that if he wanted to be in our good graces again, he HAD TO complete this 13 month program. That is what they told us to do. THIS is the door back to your family and only this door.</p><p></p><p>What I now see as I look back is that my son's thinking (and that of all addicts) is SO SKEWED and we hang on every word. It's so counter productive. Their words really do not mean <em>anything </em>as SWOT says. It's not their direct fault though, it's the addiction talking. The brain is very very damaged.</p><p></p><p>I'm so glad you are seeing a therapist. It is not humanly possible to understand addiction and why they are out to destroy themselves. My son is on the other side now (sober 11 months) and we don't talk about it much. I don't think he is comfortable doing so and I don't push. Will he ever really give me the answer that I so desperately need? Is there an answer? I really don't know.</p><p></p><p>I do hope that you stay strong and lean on those that give you support. This is so awfully hard for all of us. I find that my faith helped me through it and also strengthened it. I never gave that up thankfully.</p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/notalone.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":notalone:" title="notalone :notalone:" data-shortname=":notalone:" /><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/staystrong.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":staystrong:" title="staystrong :staystrong:" data-shortname=":staystrong:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RN0441, post: 738852, member: 15032"] Just catching up. [B]I had to accept that my son could die from his addiction.[/B] I mean really accept it. I had to do this for myself. I had to FACE the absolute worse case scenario. Once I truly did that, I was able to take a step back emotionally. I know that may sound crazy but I did do this. We were able to force our son into a faith based program because we left him with no options. We told him that if he wanted to be in our good graces again, he HAD TO complete this 13 month program. That is what they told us to do. THIS is the door back to your family and only this door. What I now see as I look back is that my son's thinking (and that of all addicts) is SO SKEWED and we hang on every word. It's so counter productive. Their words really do not mean [I]anything [/I]as SWOT says. It's not their direct fault though, it's the addiction talking. The brain is very very damaged. I'm so glad you are seeing a therapist. It is not humanly possible to understand addiction and why they are out to destroy themselves. My son is on the other side now (sober 11 months) and we don't talk about it much. I don't think he is comfortable doing so and I don't push. Will he ever really give me the answer that I so desperately need? Is there an answer? I really don't know. I do hope that you stay strong and lean on those that give you support. This is so awfully hard for all of us. I find that my faith helped me through it and also strengthened it. I never gave that up thankfully. :notalone::staystrong: [/QUOTE]
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