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He was finally sentenced for his crimes
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<blockquote data-quote="Lila256" data-source="post: 747225" data-attributes="member: 22431"><p>I completely agree with the entire first paragraph. It has been amazing for us to watch this process, because if we had done the same thing at his age, there would have been severe consequences, but he has managed to not have to take responsibility for anything that he has done beyond what we encourage at home. It is particularly frustrating as parents, because you constantly warn them that there will be consequences for their action, and then there really isn't any! I'm really not sure what the right answer is in this case because there doesn't really seem to be any solutions, but that is exactly the message that they are given. You can do whatever you want and there is no consequences. And then they reach the adult system!</p><p></p><p>It was particularly weird in our case, because I definitely was afraid of him long before he tried to kill his father and threatened to kill me, though I always tried to act normally in front of him because I didn't want him to know that I was afraid. When he did try to kill his father, he was so nonchalant about it that we actually didn't realize that he had tried until the next day because he bragged about it (put poison in his coffee which thankfully his dad didn't drink because it smelled weird). He went to live with his biological mom after that, which is where he committed the majority of the things he was charged with. His biological mom has some pretty severe issues, which is definitely part of why he has a lot of issues, and it just was complete chaos until CPS said he couldn't live with her either in the location she is currently living. She keeps trying to move to a different location so she can take him back, and I just think she is asking for a huge issue because he does not like her and he blames her for a lot of his problems. He mostly liked his dad, and he still tried to kill him!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lila256, post: 747225, member: 22431"] I completely agree with the entire first paragraph. It has been amazing for us to watch this process, because if we had done the same thing at his age, there would have been severe consequences, but he has managed to not have to take responsibility for anything that he has done beyond what we encourage at home. It is particularly frustrating as parents, because you constantly warn them that there will be consequences for their action, and then there really isn't any! I'm really not sure what the right answer is in this case because there doesn't really seem to be any solutions, but that is exactly the message that they are given. You can do whatever you want and there is no consequences. And then they reach the adult system! It was particularly weird in our case, because I definitely was afraid of him long before he tried to kill his father and threatened to kill me, though I always tried to act normally in front of him because I didn't want him to know that I was afraid. When he did try to kill his father, he was so nonchalant about it that we actually didn't realize that he had tried until the next day because he bragged about it (put poison in his coffee which thankfully his dad didn't drink because it smelled weird). He went to live with his biological mom after that, which is where he committed the majority of the things he was charged with. His biological mom has some pretty severe issues, which is definitely part of why he has a lot of issues, and it just was complete chaos until CPS said he couldn't live with her either in the location she is currently living. She keeps trying to move to a different location so she can take him back, and I just think she is asking for a huge issue because he does not like her and he blames her for a lot of his problems. He mostly liked his dad, and he still tried to kill him! [/QUOTE]
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