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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 625234" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>I don't know the ins and outs of your son's disabilities IAD, but I feel as MWM does, he is trying so hard and from MWM's description of her disabilities, it is easier to see how difficult it is for him to deal with this job. My heart is touched too by his willingness to show up, that says a lot about him. (And, by the way, MWM, you did an excellent job of explaining how it feels.)</p><p></p><p>It's so hard when our kids have these kinds of challenges. Finding that line between being there for him and detaching to a point where you can have your own life is such a fine line.</p><p></p><p>It is hard to be okay when our kids are suffering...........for me it is a practice............I'm not sure there is mastery in it, just a moment to moment choice we make over and over again. </p><p></p><p>I'm reading all those Chodron books as I've mentioned and it's helping me to recognize that trait we humans share where we want pleasure and we want pain to go away............she maintains a stance of non resistance to the pain, accepting it as what is and being with it. I have been practicing that along with breathing in the pain which is an exercise she teaches and breathing out some comfort for all of those suffering in the same way. As I was writing this, I realize that in many ways we do that here................we may not actually breathe in the pain and breathe out comfort, but we do it with our responses to each other, in our sharing of our pain. It eases it a little to be a part of a larger picture, to know that others understand and relate to the very particular pain we all feel here. </p><p></p><p>I can't take your sadness and your pain away IAD, if I could, I certainly would. But I can tell you I know exactly how you feel. And reading your post, brings up my empathy and compassion for you and for your son...........so, I am breathing in our collective pain and breathing out our collective comfort.........for you.........for me.............for all of us..........</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 625234, member: 13542"] I don't know the ins and outs of your son's disabilities IAD, but I feel as MWM does, he is trying so hard and from MWM's description of her disabilities, it is easier to see how difficult it is for him to deal with this job. My heart is touched too by his willingness to show up, that says a lot about him. (And, by the way, MWM, you did an excellent job of explaining how it feels.) It's so hard when our kids have these kinds of challenges. Finding that line between being there for him and detaching to a point where you can have your own life is such a fine line. It is hard to be okay when our kids are suffering...........for me it is a practice............I'm not sure there is mastery in it, just a moment to moment choice we make over and over again. I'm reading all those Chodron books as I've mentioned and it's helping me to recognize that trait we humans share where we want pleasure and we want pain to go away............she maintains a stance of non resistance to the pain, accepting it as what is and being with it. I have been practicing that along with breathing in the pain which is an exercise she teaches and breathing out some comfort for all of those suffering in the same way. As I was writing this, I realize that in many ways we do that here................we may not actually breathe in the pain and breathe out comfort, but we do it with our responses to each other, in our sharing of our pain. It eases it a little to be a part of a larger picture, to know that others understand and relate to the very particular pain we all feel here. I can't take your sadness and your pain away IAD, if I could, I certainly would. But I can tell you I know exactly how you feel. And reading your post, brings up my empathy and compassion for you and for your son...........so, I am breathing in our collective pain and breathing out our collective comfort.........for you.........for me.............for all of us.......... [/QUOTE]
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