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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 689419" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>Karisma, thanks for the update.</p><p></p><p></p><p>My son has been a homeless/drifter for a good solid 6 years now. I'll tell you, I will never "get used to it" but I do accept it. My son for reasons only he knows has chosen this life. I don't like it but it was only through accepting it that I was able to really move on with my life.</p><p></p><p>I have learned that the homeless population networks and they help each other, they learn from each other where safe places are to stay, places to eat, places to get warm or places to cool off. It is a harsh life being homeless but for many, my son included, that is the choice they have made and somehow they manage.</p><p></p><p>I found with my son that I was better off not knowing everything. He has shared some things with me in the past that I could have gone the rest of my life now knowing. Also, they are adults now and even with mental illness it is not our place to know everything that goes on in their life.</p><p></p><p>Again, it is with acceptance that we can free ourselves to reclaim our lives. Once I truly accepted that my son could die and that I may never know it allowed me to really let go. The thought of him dying used to consume my thoughts. I would think of every possible scenario. It was torture. I realized it served no purpose and was a waste of my time and energy. </p><p></p><p>The most important thing you can do is to take care of yourself. I'm glad to hear you realize this.</p><p></p><p>Hang in there Karisma. Know that you are not alone in this. </p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/staystrong.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":staystrong:" title="staystrong :staystrong:" data-shortname=":staystrong:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 689419, member: 18516"] Karisma, thanks for the update. My son has been a homeless/drifter for a good solid 6 years now. I'll tell you, I will never "get used to it" but I do accept it. My son for reasons only he knows has chosen this life. I don't like it but it was only through accepting it that I was able to really move on with my life. I have learned that the homeless population networks and they help each other, they learn from each other where safe places are to stay, places to eat, places to get warm or places to cool off. It is a harsh life being homeless but for many, my son included, that is the choice they have made and somehow they manage. I found with my son that I was better off not knowing everything. He has shared some things with me in the past that I could have gone the rest of my life now knowing. Also, they are adults now and even with mental illness it is not our place to know everything that goes on in their life. Again, it is with acceptance that we can free ourselves to reclaim our lives. Once I truly accepted that my son could die and that I may never know it allowed me to really let go. The thought of him dying used to consume my thoughts. I would think of every possible scenario. It was torture. I realized it served no purpose and was a waste of my time and energy. The most important thing you can do is to take care of yourself. I'm glad to hear you realize this. Hang in there Karisma. Know that you are not alone in this. :staystrong: [/QUOTE]
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