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<blockquote data-quote="JayPee" data-source="post: 750574" data-attributes="member: 23405"><p>I've been going therapy for a couple of years, I have an Al anon Sponsor and a close sister to talk with so I'm very fortunate. I pray, read good uplifting and informative books on these matters and have gone to Yoga but lately I'm getting in that mind set of freezing like a dear in the headlights and just worrying about everything.</p><p></p><p>Sometimes it just feels like the tornado of my ex's has left a path of destruction in all of our hearts. I cannot and will not blame him for all my two Adult Son(s) issues. </p><p></p><p>He almost died two years ago. You'd think that was "his bottom" but it wasn't. Not much more has changed in that time except perhaps his scerosis and health have deteriorated even more. </p><p></p><p>I know this might sound strange but I worry about the Adult Son(s) and if their father does die. The younger son was staying with his father for just the past few months in motels. Older son, living in car will have it reposessed likely next month because of his stupid choices. I know all the information about these are their poor choices but one can't help but get gnarled up thinking if he does pass away, they will be living in cars, on street etc., mourning the loss of their father. I cannot and will not have them live with me. Too much has happened and that's my boundary until or if ever they show a change in the pattern of their lives for a long period of time to show me they can be trusted and can take care of themselves. I'm not quite sure if that day will come.</p><p></p><p>I'm very exhausted emotionally and mentally from all of it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JayPee, post: 750574, member: 23405"] I've been going therapy for a couple of years, I have an Al anon Sponsor and a close sister to talk with so I'm very fortunate. I pray, read good uplifting and informative books on these matters and have gone to Yoga but lately I'm getting in that mind set of freezing like a dear in the headlights and just worrying about everything. Sometimes it just feels like the tornado of my ex's has left a path of destruction in all of our hearts. I cannot and will not blame him for all my two Adult Son(s) issues. He almost died two years ago. You'd think that was "his bottom" but it wasn't. Not much more has changed in that time except perhaps his scerosis and health have deteriorated even more. I know this might sound strange but I worry about the Adult Son(s) and if their father does die. The younger son was staying with his father for just the past few months in motels. Older son, living in car will have it reposessed likely next month because of his stupid choices. I know all the information about these are their poor choices but one can't help but get gnarled up thinking if he does pass away, they will be living in cars, on street etc., mourning the loss of their father. I cannot and will not have them live with me. Too much has happened and that's my boundary until or if ever they show a change in the pattern of their lives for a long period of time to show me they can be trusted and can take care of themselves. I'm not quite sure if that day will come. I'm very exhausted emotionally and mentally from all of it. [/QUOTE]
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