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<blockquote data-quote="HeadlightsMom" data-source="post: 637283" data-attributes="member: 18284"><p>MWM -- Nice idea about the FB post! The only thing I'd do differently is not do it daily (maybe weekly). I don't want to commit to a frequency I don't want. But I do love viewing FB as my own PBS/PSA when needed!</p><p></p><p>Echo --- I know, right? Yeesh! I once cried in front of his bio fam about something. They (who are deeply troubled) lapsed into, "See, I told you! You're only crying because you know I'm right and you feel guilty!" Another time, they lapsed into a big spiel about how difficult child's problems are all our fault. To which I replied, "Well, someone had to raise him while the rest of you were in jail and rehab!" To which he then began yelling profanities. I then hung up on him. Later, husband called him (difficult child's bio uncle) to tell him to stop being abusive toward me. difficult child's bio uncle replied that he wanted to beat husband up. husband replied, "Are you still 10 years old or something?" Then husband hung up, also. </p><p></p><p>Uh huh. These are the ridiculous bio family our difficult child comes from. Their motto is, "We take what we want and we hit you if you don't like you." So............that'w how our difficult child wound up in foster care and how we came to adopt him.</p><p></p><p>Thing is, difficult child doesn't really have many genuine friends (count on one hand with fingers remaining), so he gravitates back toward his bio family (who also doesn't have many friends) because they think his behavior is ok (because they have same behavior). And there are dozens and dozens of them in our city. They have babies, galore, and they all lose their kids to CPS, galore.</p><p></p><p>So, we sat difficult child down yesterday and told him, "We do not want ANY contact with your bio fam. We will not go by their houses and they will not come by ours." Period. difficult child "somewhat" understands this......somewhat. I have ZERO interest in that kind of toxic interaction. I wish them well, but from afar..........VERY afar.</p><p></p><p>Ha! Well, thanks for that little ranty! Love is love..........and boundaries are boundaries! LOL!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="HeadlightsMom, post: 637283, member: 18284"] MWM -- Nice idea about the FB post! The only thing I'd do differently is not do it daily (maybe weekly). I don't want to commit to a frequency I don't want. But I do love viewing FB as my own PBS/PSA when needed! Echo --- I know, right? Yeesh! I once cried in front of his bio fam about something. They (who are deeply troubled) lapsed into, "See, I told you! You're only crying because you know I'm right and you feel guilty!" Another time, they lapsed into a big spiel about how difficult child's problems are all our fault. To which I replied, "Well, someone had to raise him while the rest of you were in jail and rehab!" To which he then began yelling profanities. I then hung up on him. Later, husband called him (difficult child's bio uncle) to tell him to stop being abusive toward me. difficult child's bio uncle replied that he wanted to beat husband up. husband replied, "Are you still 10 years old or something?" Then husband hung up, also. Uh huh. These are the ridiculous bio family our difficult child comes from. Their motto is, "We take what we want and we hit you if you don't like you." So............that'w how our difficult child wound up in foster care and how we came to adopt him. Thing is, difficult child doesn't really have many genuine friends (count on one hand with fingers remaining), so he gravitates back toward his bio family (who also doesn't have many friends) because they think his behavior is ok (because they have same behavior). And there are dozens and dozens of them in our city. They have babies, galore, and they all lose their kids to CPS, galore. So, we sat difficult child down yesterday and told him, "We do not want ANY contact with your bio fam. We will not go by their houses and they will not come by ours." Period. difficult child "somewhat" understands this......somewhat. I have ZERO interest in that kind of toxic interaction. I wish them well, but from afar..........VERY afar. Ha! Well, thanks for that little ranty! Love is love..........and boundaries are boundaries! LOL! [/QUOTE]
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