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Hello and thanks; advice needed re 27 yr old son not launching
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 747155" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>There are similarities in our stories. My son is 30. I read your story and I see hope and progress, as well as great love and responsibility. Your son seems to have had some hits as well as misses. You have supported him every step of the way. You may be so close and the circumstances so difficult and painful, that the successes are obscured. I see a family with great love, that is in this to win it. It is very, very hard when we cannot point to the things we long for , stability, contentment, security, consistency, etc. Or if we can, it's for days or hours, and no more.</p><p></p><p>Does your son have some underlying mood instability, in addition to the PTSD and ADHD?</p><p></p><p>What stands out is how your son has stayed in the game, and you have too. Who is to say how much worse this could have been without your consistent support? Well, the girlfriend comes to mind. How sad and all too common a story. I know how hard it is when their judgment is poor, they act impulsively and against their own and our interest. When this happens it is difficult to not become reactive, too, and to not stay in touch with the concrete and meaningful ways that things are good and better.</p><p></p><p>I really think that posting helps. It is not so much that the advice changes things, but posting helps us to work out things and to clarify where we stand and who we are. Welcome.</p><p></p><p>PS I just see that he has a part time job. This is great. My own son works only very, very sporadically. I would be thrilled if he had a part-time job. My son does receive SSI/SSDI. To me, it is a mixed bag, because this enables him to live at a very low level and to not have to work. He would greatly benefit to my way of thinking to be tethered in some way to the workforce.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 747155, member: 18958"] There are similarities in our stories. My son is 30. I read your story and I see hope and progress, as well as great love and responsibility. Your son seems to have had some hits as well as misses. You have supported him every step of the way. You may be so close and the circumstances so difficult and painful, that the successes are obscured. I see a family with great love, that is in this to win it. It is very, very hard when we cannot point to the things we long for , stability, contentment, security, consistency, etc. Or if we can, it's for days or hours, and no more. Does your son have some underlying mood instability, in addition to the PTSD and ADHD? What stands out is how your son has stayed in the game, and you have too. Who is to say how much worse this could have been without your consistent support? Well, the girlfriend comes to mind. How sad and all too common a story. I know how hard it is when their judgment is poor, they act impulsively and against their own and our interest. When this happens it is difficult to not become reactive, too, and to not stay in touch with the concrete and meaningful ways that things are good and better. I really think that posting helps. It is not so much that the advice changes things, but posting helps us to work out things and to clarify where we stand and who we are. Welcome. PS I just see that he has a part time job. This is great. My own son works only very, very sporadically. I would be thrilled if he had a part-time job. My son does receive SSI/SSDI. To me, it is a mixed bag, because this enables him to live at a very low level and to not have to work. He would greatly benefit to my way of thinking to be tethered in some way to the workforce. [/QUOTE]
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