Esther,
What a great outcome for a situation that seemed so difficult! You remember me as Antsmom. My son was 16 when I joined here. He’s now over 40. He’s doing very well. He’s sober, has four kids, is active in his church, and owns his own business. My time here carried me through those difficult days of his substance abuse, running away, oppositional defiant disorder etc etc. Hard to believe how different he is now.
What helped?
Detachment with love helped, making him responsible for his own life choices, being firm with tough love and not enabling. My faith helped me cope, learning boundaries, going to counseling and being able to get supportive help from others on the path ahead of me.
My son was a great challenge from age 13-25 but he eventually grew a brain. The pain of the consequences of his lifestyle taught him.
Esther, be safe! 
