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<blockquote data-quote="Kathy813" data-source="post: 714580" data-attributes="member: 1967"><p>That was something I would have done before I learned about boundaries and enabling. There was no reason in the world your son couldn't have found those meetings on his own. It is his recovery so he has to do the work.</p><p></p><p>He is trying to keep you involved in taking care of him. When you do that, you reinforce the idea that he can't take care of himself. It is called being co-dependent and I was one of the worst offenders.</p><p></p><p>It took two years of private therapy for me to recognize what I was doing and to learn to set firm boundaries. At 28, he is perfectly capable of getting a job and taking care of himself. If substance abuse is keeping that from happening, he has to decide that he wants to stop and take the steps (himself) towards recovery.</p><p></p><p>~Kathy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kathy813, post: 714580, member: 1967"] That was something I would have done before I learned about boundaries and enabling. There was no reason in the world your son couldn't have found those meetings on his own. It is his recovery so he has to do the work. He is trying to keep you involved in taking care of him. When you do that, you reinforce the idea that he can't take care of himself. It is called being co-dependent and I was one of the worst offenders. It took two years of private therapy for me to recognize what I was doing and to learn to set firm boundaries. At 28, he is perfectly capable of getting a job and taking care of himself. If substance abuse is keeping that from happening, he has to decide that he wants to stop and take the steps (himself) towards recovery. ~Kathy [/QUOTE]
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