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<blockquote data-quote="200Meters" data-source="post: 755088" data-attributes="member: 23727"><p>Hi Copabanana!</p><p></p><p></p><p>The stuff between the lines is the post I started writing yesterday but didn't have time to send.</p><p></p><p>__________</p><p></p><p></p><p>You are right and you are talking sense. But it still sucks</p><p></p><p></p><p>My wife is holding up OK. We are both rather depressed ahead of tomorrow morning. My wife has already told the staff social worker at her very large institutional place of employment that she will need some time tomorrow. (I am writing this on my phone as I wait in the car for her.) I spoke to Youngest earlier today. He was actually in good spirits. I told him that even though we fight, we still love him. He said the same and did not object, as he has previously, when I said we would be at his sentencing tomorrow morning.</p><p></p><p></p><p>I remember when we brought him home. I could hold him in one hand. Funny, but I never thought then that one day, his mother and I would be awaiting his sentencing for breaking and entering and petty larceny. It is not something that a parent normally looks forward to.</p><p></p><p></p><p>I forgot to mention that at the meeting between my wife, Youngest & the new probation officer (so the latter could write a pre-sentencing recommendation), Youngest twice refused to take a urine test. He later told us that he wasn't using but that he considered having to urinate in a cup as infringing on his dignity. Our response was, "Yeah. And...? How is that relevant?" He is so mule-headed (no offense to our equine friends!) that he will act against his own self-interest. Or he doesn't care. I don't know which is worse.</p><p></p><p>__________</p><p></p><p></p><p>Last night after dinner, my wife & I took the hounds for a nice long walk. We love them dawgs.</p><p></p><p></p><p>We were at the Jerusalem Magistrates Court by 08:30. We waited until just after 09:00. The lawyer came first & then a little while later, two Prison Service guards brought Youngest in handcuffs and anklecuffs. (I will never get used to seeing him that way.) We all went into court. We waited for the judge to finish the previous case. He told Youngest to stand and then read out his decision.</p><p></p><p></p><p>He went over the history of Youngest's case and then sentenced him to one year's imprisonment minus some of the time Youngest has already served in detention and under house arrest. Given that this is Youngest's first (non-violent, non-sexual, non-political, non-security related) offense, he could end up doing as little as 5 or 6 months. He also dished out conditional imprisonment, the condition being that he not commit any crimes (misdemeanors or felonies) against property for at least three years following his release. Youngest also has to compensate the family whose flat he broke into and robbed to the tune of NIS 5,000 (just under $1450), payable in installments starting three months after his release.We should find out next week exactly how much time Youngest will actually do and at what facility he will do it.</p><p></p><p></p><p>How do I feel? Apart from depressed at the fact that Youngest will be fitted for an orange jumpsuit? I think a little disappointed because I am concerned that Youngest will scoff at doing a "mere" 5-6 months and conclude, as he has his entire teen life, that he has, once again, played the system, successfully (see my very first post). That he will be saddled with a criminal record that will dog him (no offense) for the rest of his life does not faze him one iota. Youngest lives in the eternal present and can barely see next week much less 10, 20 or more years from now. I do not know that a "mere" 5-6 months in prison will effect any positive change in him. It is screamingly obvious to my wife & I that Youngest needs therapy and rehab but it is also screamingly obvious to us that Youngest will not seek such therapy and/or rehab. My wife told me that once we find out what prison Youngest will serve his time in, we should try to contact the social worker there. Sure, why not? But to use a Middle Eastern analogy, we can take Youngest to water, but we cannot make him drink. We are also afraid that he will meet members of Israel's organized crime families / organizations while in prison. I can see one of their members or soldiers telling Youngest to come work for them when he gets out. (Remember, Youngest dropped out of high school, avoided the military & has absolutely zero prospects.)</p><p></p><p></p><p>At the risk of repeating myself, <em><span style="font-size: 26px"><a href="https://www.yourdictionary.com/feh" target="_blank"><u>FEH</u></a>!!!!</span></em></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="200Meters, post: 755088, member: 23727"] Hi Copabanana! The stuff between the lines is the post I started writing yesterday but didn't have time to send. __________ You are right and you are talking sense. But it still sucks My wife is holding up OK. We are both rather depressed ahead of tomorrow morning. My wife has already told the staff social worker at her very large institutional place of employment that she will need some time tomorrow. (I am writing this on my phone as I wait in the car for her.) I spoke to Youngest earlier today. He was actually in good spirits. I told him that even though we fight, we still love him. He said the same and did not object, as he has previously, when I said we would be at his sentencing tomorrow morning. I remember when we brought him home. I could hold him in one hand. Funny, but I never thought then that one day, his mother and I would be awaiting his sentencing for breaking and entering and petty larceny. It is not something that a parent normally looks forward to. I forgot to mention that at the meeting between my wife, Youngest & the new probation officer (so the latter could write a pre-sentencing recommendation), Youngest twice refused to take a urine test. He later told us that he wasn't using but that he considered having to urinate in a cup as infringing on his dignity. Our response was, "Yeah. And...? How is that relevant?" He is so mule-headed (no offense to our equine friends!) that he will act against his own self-interest. Or he doesn't care. I don't know which is worse. __________ Last night after dinner, my wife & I took the hounds for a nice long walk. We love them dawgs. We were at the Jerusalem Magistrates Court by 08:30. We waited until just after 09:00. The lawyer came first & then a little while later, two Prison Service guards brought Youngest in handcuffs and anklecuffs. (I will never get used to seeing him that way.) We all went into court. We waited for the judge to finish the previous case. He told Youngest to stand and then read out his decision. He went over the history of Youngest's case and then sentenced him to one year's imprisonment minus some of the time Youngest has already served in detention and under house arrest. Given that this is Youngest's first (non-violent, non-sexual, non-political, non-security related) offense, he could end up doing as little as 5 or 6 months. He also dished out conditional imprisonment, the condition being that he not commit any crimes (misdemeanors or felonies) against property for at least three years following his release. Youngest also has to compensate the family whose flat he broke into and robbed to the tune of NIS 5,000 (just under $1450), payable in installments starting three months after his release.We should find out next week exactly how much time Youngest will actually do and at what facility he will do it. How do I feel? Apart from depressed at the fact that Youngest will be fitted for an orange jumpsuit? I think a little disappointed because I am concerned that Youngest will scoff at doing a "mere" 5-6 months and conclude, as he has his entire teen life, that he has, once again, played the system, successfully (see my very first post). That he will be saddled with a criminal record that will dog him (no offense) for the rest of his life does not faze him one iota. Youngest lives in the eternal present and can barely see next week much less 10, 20 or more years from now. I do not know that a "mere" 5-6 months in prison will effect any positive change in him. It is screamingly obvious to my wife & I that Youngest needs therapy and rehab but it is also screamingly obvious to us that Youngest will not seek such therapy and/or rehab. My wife told me that once we find out what prison Youngest will serve his time in, we should try to contact the social worker there. Sure, why not? But to use a Middle Eastern analogy, we can take Youngest to water, but we cannot make him drink. We are also afraid that he will meet members of Israel's organized crime families / organizations while in prison. I can see one of their members or soldiers telling Youngest to come work for them when he gets out. (Remember, Youngest dropped out of high school, avoided the military & has absolutely zero prospects.) At the risk of repeating myself, [I][SIZE=7][URL='https://www.yourdictionary.com/feh'][U]FEH[/U][/URL]!!!![/SIZE][/I] [/QUOTE]
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