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Help her? Let her sink? What's a mom of an 18 yr old to do?
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 210050" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>It might be helpful for you to go to narcotics anonymous or al anon meetings. They really can give you support through this. I think your daughter if more involved in drugs than you think, just based on her history. Pot really is a gateway drug, and if she got some laced with other drugs, well, she could be hooked on the other drug or drugs. With some drugs it really only takes ONE time to be hooked, or so I have been told by friends who have kicked drug habits.</p><p> </p><p>Please remember that until your difficult child hits bottom (HER bottom, NOT what would be YOUR bottom) she isn't going to change. If she doesn't have to face the consequences of not working, not doing what she needs to, of spending all her $$ on drugs or non-essentials, she isn't going to learn that she needs to stop that stuff. </p><p> </p><p>It may be a long process. I am NOT saying give up on her. I am saying set rules, insist she follow them or leave. Drug testing should be part of the rules. And not at specified times, at any time YOU choose.</p><p> </p><p>This is all so dang hard. I hate that for you. But you will get through it. It also might help to read up on codependency and boundaries. I know the book and workbook "Boundaries" by Cloud and Townsend is EXCELLENT.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 210050, member: 1233"] It might be helpful for you to go to narcotics anonymous or al anon meetings. They really can give you support through this. I think your daughter if more involved in drugs than you think, just based on her history. Pot really is a gateway drug, and if she got some laced with other drugs, well, she could be hooked on the other drug or drugs. With some drugs it really only takes ONE time to be hooked, or so I have been told by friends who have kicked drug habits. Please remember that until your difficult child hits bottom (HER bottom, NOT what would be YOUR bottom) she isn't going to change. If she doesn't have to face the consequences of not working, not doing what she needs to, of spending all her $$ on drugs or non-essentials, she isn't going to learn that she needs to stop that stuff. It may be a long process. I am NOT saying give up on her. I am saying set rules, insist she follow them or leave. Drug testing should be part of the rules. And not at specified times, at any time YOU choose. This is all so dang hard. I hate that for you. But you will get through it. It also might help to read up on codependency and boundaries. I know the book and workbook "Boundaries" by Cloud and Townsend is EXCELLENT. [/QUOTE]
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