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<blockquote data-quote="Baggy Bags" data-source="post: 745375" data-attributes="member: 22819"><p>Thanks so much, everyone.</p><p></p><p>One thing that has my hands tied is that biodad can no longer have him in his house, which means that there is nowhere else except back here with us.</p><p></p><p>I am TERRIFIED of him having to come back here, but now there is NOWHERE else.</p><p></p><p>The doctor was hinting at giving him the kind of medication that would stop him from being violent, so that he doesn't kill me.</p><p>But that makes me think that he wants to sedate him to the point where he is no longer dangerous, which sounds VERY sedated.</p><p></p><p>Because, really, what else can we do? We can pay for him to be there, where he can't kill me or himself.</p><p>Or we can try having him here again and pray he doesn't kill me, or himself.</p><p></p><p>The doctor thinks he can't take care of himself because he will just impulsively do these crazy things, and then not know what to do because he never made a plan, he just did the thing. </p><p></p><p>My son is incredibly capable in some ways. He could work in the kitchen 12 hours straight to bake stuff he'd sell at the market, where he'd make tons of money. But he can't keep his room minimally clean. He'll let plates with rotting food pile up under his bed, among his things, stuff will rot and be destroyed, bugs... To top it all off he's anaphylactic, so he's gotta be "awake" enough to self-inject in the case of a bee sting or he could die.</p><p></p><p>If he would "let" us help him out, we could set him up with his own food business and leave him a Bed and Breakfast set up, with other people running it, even keeping an eye on him after we die. We are very involved in the community and so many people love him. So that doesn't scare me so much as him not letting us take care of him, not being able to afford long-term a place like where he is now, and either having him here against his will (because of the violence/stealing/lying) or having him on the streets where he has already proven that yes, he can stay alive and even get jobs (until they catch him stealing) but would eventually end up dead or in jail because of the stuff he does.</p><p></p><p>So, in a way, it's in his hands. He can choose to come back here or stay in a center like that as long as we can pay for it. I gave him that code phrase for us to go get him whenever he says. So, for now, there's nowhere else anyway, unless he decides to come home. It's kind of more in his hands than in mine at this point, unless I force him back, and that just wouldn't end well.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Baggy Bags, post: 745375, member: 22819"] Thanks so much, everyone. One thing that has my hands tied is that biodad can no longer have him in his house, which means that there is nowhere else except back here with us. I am TERRIFIED of him having to come back here, but now there is NOWHERE else. The doctor was hinting at giving him the kind of medication that would stop him from being violent, so that he doesn't kill me. But that makes me think that he wants to sedate him to the point where he is no longer dangerous, which sounds VERY sedated. Because, really, what else can we do? We can pay for him to be there, where he can't kill me or himself. Or we can try having him here again and pray he doesn't kill me, or himself. The doctor thinks he can't take care of himself because he will just impulsively do these crazy things, and then not know what to do because he never made a plan, he just did the thing. My son is incredibly capable in some ways. He could work in the kitchen 12 hours straight to bake stuff he'd sell at the market, where he'd make tons of money. But he can't keep his room minimally clean. He'll let plates with rotting food pile up under his bed, among his things, stuff will rot and be destroyed, bugs... To top it all off he's anaphylactic, so he's gotta be "awake" enough to self-inject in the case of a bee sting or he could die. If he would "let" us help him out, we could set him up with his own food business and leave him a Bed and Breakfast set up, with other people running it, even keeping an eye on him after we die. We are very involved in the community and so many people love him. So that doesn't scare me so much as him not letting us take care of him, not being able to afford long-term a place like where he is now, and either having him here against his will (because of the violence/stealing/lying) or having him on the streets where he has already proven that yes, he can stay alive and even get jobs (until they catch him stealing) but would eventually end up dead or in jail because of the stuff he does. So, in a way, it's in his hands. He can choose to come back here or stay in a center like that as long as we can pay for it. I gave him that code phrase for us to go get him whenever he says. So, for now, there's nowhere else anyway, unless he decides to come home. It's kind of more in his hands than in mine at this point, unless I force him back, and that just wouldn't end well. [/QUOTE]
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