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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 746206" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I think therapy CAN be great for many people. I was highly motivated but very much thought of the few therrapists therrapists who.still used Freud as Fraud. That was my name for him lol. I did not buy into or do that sort of therapy. So I obviously needed a therapist who was not Freudian.</p><p></p><p>I liked common sense, not theory based help and still do. Like CBT. We all have different needs.</p><p></p><p> I dont believe everyone can be helped by therapy Copa which is why I warned that even a hospital can be a stepping stone to a better life, as it was for me, but there are people who go to ten hospitals and nothing resonates with them or they are not interested in changing or they do it with self help or Rabbis/Pastors or are the poor souls who can not be helped and others who will not be helped. Behaviors are not all treatable and not everyone gets better. Think od poor Feeling Sad's son and how hard she tried to get him help. Through no fault of her sweet self, he is a danger to her. And she takes precautions.</p><p></p><p>I dont want Bags to spend all her $$ on.L or owe somebody all her money and L may not be any better when all is done..Psychiatry is inexact Because of that you can go broke and still not cure your loved one. In a way it is worse than cancer.</p><p></p><p>I was both lucky that a mood disorder is not so serious and can be helped a lot with therapy like CBT and that God blessed me with a spot on medication, which does not always happen. medications dont help everyone. My extreme motivation and self awareness helped me too. I would not quit. Not everyone is willing to fight so hard. The fight in your gut is necessary.</p><p></p><p>I</p><p>also, although full of trauma, was never dangerous to anyone else. So I was very treatable. </p><p> </p><p>I have no idea about L. I know trauma CAN cause dangerous behavior. But Princess was sexually assaulted at 8. She never tried to hurt another. </p><p></p><p>Trauma doesnt necessarily cause one to be dangerous. And it can, like the dangerous boy who we foster/adopted who hurt my littles. Just because his sad early trauma caused this boy to be dangerous doesnt mean he will EVER be safe. He has four kids now and I shutter. Three are little girls. Do I think he is molesting them? Yes. </p><p></p><p>Trauma can cause danger. Danger cant always be fixed. And many who suffer trauma do not harm anyone else ever. Why? Thats the problem with psychology. We dont know why.</p><p></p><p>Some serial killers were never abused. They just became very sick and nobody can say why.</p><p></p><p>Sadly.....very sadly......nobody knows what causes all people to go off the rails and become dangerous. I personally believe that in the end everything will be proven to have a physical cause but we are not to the point of knowing answers. Nor do we know how to cure everyone. That is maybe even sadder.</p><p></p><p>Bags needs to stay safe. I cant imagine the heartbreak it must cause to have to be even a little afraid that your own child may hurt you. And I feel terrible about the situation. And I hope he does decide to try to do better. I pray with all my heart.</p><p></p><p>Unlike strep throat, where you passively take an antibiotic to get well, it takes very hard determination to change the way that you are. Some people cant do it. Some dont really want to. But it is never easy. There is no antibiotic for behavior. Wouldnt that be nice if there were?</p><p></p><p>I dont want Bags to go broke yet I want someplace else to try to motivate L. In the end, even at his young age, this is up to L. There is no magic pill, only L's true motivation to at least try hard to be a different, good person and begin to want to be a responsible, good adult. Only he can do it. Not even a top psychiatrist can do it for him. Or for anyone.</p><p></p><p>I hope he can try Argentina and see if he changes his life view and becomes determined to change. That is what it takes! And the willingness to.work for it!</p><p></p><p>Love and hugs!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 746206, member: 1550"] I think therapy CAN be great for many people. I was highly motivated but very much thought of the few therrapists therrapists who.still used Freud as Fraud. That was my name for him lol. I did not buy into or do that sort of therapy. So I obviously needed a therapist who was not Freudian. I liked common sense, not theory based help and still do. Like CBT. We all have different needs. I dont believe everyone can be helped by therapy Copa which is why I warned that even a hospital can be a stepping stone to a better life, as it was for me, but there are people who go to ten hospitals and nothing resonates with them or they are not interested in changing or they do it with self help or Rabbis/Pastors or are the poor souls who can not be helped and others who will not be helped. Behaviors are not all treatable and not everyone gets better. Think od poor Feeling Sad's son and how hard she tried to get him help. Through no fault of her sweet self, he is a danger to her. And she takes precautions. I dont want Bags to spend all her $$ on.L or owe somebody all her money and L may not be any better when all is done..Psychiatry is inexact Because of that you can go broke and still not cure your loved one. In a way it is worse than cancer. I was both lucky that a mood disorder is not so serious and can be helped a lot with therapy like CBT and that God blessed me with a spot on medication, which does not always happen. medications dont help everyone. My extreme motivation and self awareness helped me too. I would not quit. Not everyone is willing to fight so hard. The fight in your gut is necessary. I also, although full of trauma, was never dangerous to anyone else. So I was very treatable. I have no idea about L. I know trauma CAN cause dangerous behavior. But Princess was sexually assaulted at 8. She never tried to hurt another. Trauma doesnt necessarily cause one to be dangerous. And it can, like the dangerous boy who we foster/adopted who hurt my littles. Just because his sad early trauma caused this boy to be dangerous doesnt mean he will EVER be safe. He has four kids now and I shutter. Three are little girls. Do I think he is molesting them? Yes. Trauma can cause danger. Danger cant always be fixed. And many who suffer trauma do not harm anyone else ever. Why? Thats the problem with psychology. We dont know why. Some serial killers were never abused. They just became very sick and nobody can say why. Sadly.....very sadly......nobody knows what causes all people to go off the rails and become dangerous. I personally believe that in the end everything will be proven to have a physical cause but we are not to the point of knowing answers. Nor do we know how to cure everyone. That is maybe even sadder. Bags needs to stay safe. I cant imagine the heartbreak it must cause to have to be even a little afraid that your own child may hurt you. And I feel terrible about the situation. And I hope he does decide to try to do better. I pray with all my heart. Unlike strep throat, where you passively take an antibiotic to get well, it takes very hard determination to change the way that you are. Some people cant do it. Some dont really want to. But it is never easy. There is no antibiotic for behavior. Wouldnt that be nice if there were? I dont want Bags to go broke yet I want someplace else to try to motivate L. In the end, even at his young age, this is up to L. There is no magic pill, only L's true motivation to at least try hard to be a different, good person and begin to want to be a responsible, good adult. Only he can do it. Not even a top psychiatrist can do it for him. Or for anyone. I hope he can try Argentina and see if he changes his life view and becomes determined to change. That is what it takes! And the willingness to.work for it! Love and hugs! [/QUOTE]
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