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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 466569" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>That was me who said the insanity thing susie.</p><p></p><p>Kathy Kathy Kathy, I am so sorry that you had to sit through that session but believe me when I tell you it happened every single time we went to parent day while difficult child was in treatment, and that was nine Sundays sitting through that after a three hour round trip ride just like you. It is emotionally and phsyically draining. We had one session close to the end of the first 30 days when difficult child pulled the same thing, you don't love me if you won't let me come home, I won't stay here one day longer, I'll leave on my own, I'll go to IOP (intensive outpatient), blah blah blah. The counselor asked us to draw the line in the sand and we did, we told her she could not come home and that she needed to stay another 30 days. My only regret is that at the end of the 60 days we didn't insist on a sober house.</p><p></p><p>Finally difficult child relented and stayed the 60 days, but each week another client was pulling the same thing on their family member and so it went. Some walked out, some stayed, some convinced their family they were "better" and were back in a few weeks. difficult child stayed 60 days and went to IOP for another 45 and she still relapsed right after. Every day you can keep them in treatment is one day longer that they are sober.</p><p></p><p>I am concerned that this counselor said what she did in front of your difficult child. We had private phone calls with our difficult child's counselor to make sure we were on the same page. Her counselor pushed to have difficult child stay longer. Can you call her counselor and tsalk this over with her and let her know your concerns? She should know the dangers of letting difficult child come home, I am baffled by her stand on this.</p><p></p><p>I know how devastated you are. Sometimes we would drive away thinking that she wasn't getting this at all. In the end I do think she got it, she understands the disease and has accepted it. Now it is a matter of replacing that part of her life with other things and that is the hardest. Stay strong, know what you will accept and what you won't. In the end she may be back on the street like our difficult child was for a while, but she may be closer to getting help the next time also.</p><p></p><p>Hugs,</p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 466569, member: 59"] That was me who said the insanity thing susie. Kathy Kathy Kathy, I am so sorry that you had to sit through that session but believe me when I tell you it happened every single time we went to parent day while difficult child was in treatment, and that was nine Sundays sitting through that after a three hour round trip ride just like you. It is emotionally and phsyically draining. We had one session close to the end of the first 30 days when difficult child pulled the same thing, you don't love me if you won't let me come home, I won't stay here one day longer, I'll leave on my own, I'll go to IOP (intensive outpatient), blah blah blah. The counselor asked us to draw the line in the sand and we did, we told her she could not come home and that she needed to stay another 30 days. My only regret is that at the end of the 60 days we didn't insist on a sober house. Finally difficult child relented and stayed the 60 days, but each week another client was pulling the same thing on their family member and so it went. Some walked out, some stayed, some convinced their family they were "better" and were back in a few weeks. difficult child stayed 60 days and went to IOP for another 45 and she still relapsed right after. Every day you can keep them in treatment is one day longer that they are sober. I am concerned that this counselor said what she did in front of your difficult child. We had private phone calls with our difficult child's counselor to make sure we were on the same page. Her counselor pushed to have difficult child stay longer. Can you call her counselor and tsalk this over with her and let her know your concerns? She should know the dangers of letting difficult child come home, I am baffled by her stand on this. I know how devastated you are. Sometimes we would drive away thinking that she wasn't getting this at all. In the end I do think she got it, she understands the disease and has accepted it. Now it is a matter of replacing that part of her life with other things and that is the hardest. Stay strong, know what you will accept and what you won't. In the end she may be back on the street like our difficult child was for a while, but she may be closer to getting help the next time also. Hugs, Nancy [/QUOTE]
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