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<blockquote data-quote="RN0441" data-source="post: 720913" data-attributes="member: 15032"><p>Welcome Oldman:</p><p></p><p>You have gotten good advice. You have a younger daughter to think about and you have to set a good example for her.</p><p></p><p>I agree that he should be working full time and saving for a car to move out. If he is doing something with his life then you can help him, like going to school etc. but if he wants to lay around and party then I agree you should not let him take advantage of you.</p><p></p><p>I'd talk to a therapist and write up a contract and stick to it. Whatever you say you are going to do if he does not comply you MUST follow through with - so don't say anything that you can't/won't follow through on.</p><p></p><p>We did this with our son but he failed miserably. He has been out of state in rehab/sober living for 1.5 years and now we are sending him to a faith based program for a year. He has to learn how to be a good man. We tried to teach him that but it was a big fail all around. Our older boys are wonderful so we know it's nothing we did. Ever child is different.</p><p></p><p>Our son is begging to come home; that he now knows what to "do" but he has to prove it and NOT in my house.</p><p></p><p>Good luck and you have to stay strong or they'll walk all over you. Nothing changes if nothing changes. YOU have to drive the change!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RN0441, post: 720913, member: 15032"] Welcome Oldman: You have gotten good advice. You have a younger daughter to think about and you have to set a good example for her. I agree that he should be working full time and saving for a car to move out. If he is doing something with his life then you can help him, like going to school etc. but if he wants to lay around and party then I agree you should not let him take advantage of you. I'd talk to a therapist and write up a contract and stick to it. Whatever you say you are going to do if he does not comply you MUST follow through with - so don't say anything that you can't/won't follow through on. We did this with our son but he failed miserably. He has been out of state in rehab/sober living for 1.5 years and now we are sending him to a faith based program for a year. He has to learn how to be a good man. We tried to teach him that but it was a big fail all around. Our older boys are wonderful so we know it's nothing we did. Ever child is different. Our son is begging to come home; that he now knows what to "do" but he has to prove it and NOT in my house. Good luck and you have to stay strong or they'll walk all over you. Nothing changes if nothing changes. YOU have to drive the change! [/QUOTE]
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