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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 603532" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>Hi there. Your post could have been written by me. I also have 3 kids who each have their own issues. I am also borderline and bipolar along with having some physical disabilities. Believe me I have blamed myself plenty over the years for the issues my kids have. Almost all of it comes straight down my maternal tree. My mom was worse than I am and I think her mom was much like her. I also have some guilt because my most problematic child also has some fairly serious physical problems that cause him constant pain.</p><p></p><p>I have been able to get my son out several times over the years but he always seems to end up back home. Thankfully mine isnt violent though he can yell sometimes when he is upset. It isnt at me though. </p><p></p><p>My oldest son tries to help me and support me with whatever I am feeling. My middle son is less forgiving but he is always there to tell me I am right and not to worry. He even offers to help with my youngest but youngest has to know the rules going in. All my kids are very close and I am sure that if all else fails my youngest may end up at his brothers. </p><p></p><p>I know this feels like our fault but it isnt. I had a very hard time a few years ago accepting that I wasnt at fault because do to some things my mother did to me, that is why we feel I have borderline. The lines really blurred there because if I was blaming my mom then how could I not be to blame too? There are simply facts that I have tried over and over for my kids and my mother didnt. She wanted me to be unwell. At least that is what I tell myself even though I am not good at detaching at this time.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 603532, member: 1514"] Hi there. Your post could have been written by me. I also have 3 kids who each have their own issues. I am also borderline and bipolar along with having some physical disabilities. Believe me I have blamed myself plenty over the years for the issues my kids have. Almost all of it comes straight down my maternal tree. My mom was worse than I am and I think her mom was much like her. I also have some guilt because my most problematic child also has some fairly serious physical problems that cause him constant pain. I have been able to get my son out several times over the years but he always seems to end up back home. Thankfully mine isnt violent though he can yell sometimes when he is upset. It isnt at me though. My oldest son tries to help me and support me with whatever I am feeling. My middle son is less forgiving but he is always there to tell me I am right and not to worry. He even offers to help with my youngest but youngest has to know the rules going in. All my kids are very close and I am sure that if all else fails my youngest may end up at his brothers. I know this feels like our fault but it isnt. I had a very hard time a few years ago accepting that I wasnt at fault because do to some things my mother did to me, that is why we feel I have borderline. The lines really blurred there because if I was blaming my mom then how could I not be to blame too? There are simply facts that I have tried over and over for my kids and my mother didnt. She wanted me to be unwell. At least that is what I tell myself even though I am not good at detaching at this time. [/QUOTE]
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