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<blockquote data-quote="gottaloveem" data-source="post: 131837" data-attributes="member: 1953"><p>This will be long and I apologize, but I have a lot to say.</p><p></p><p>Hi and welcome to conductdisorders.com So sorry you had to find us. I know how you feel and what you are going through.</p><p></p><p>I wish I could tell you our story ended happily ever after but it is quite the opposite, however maybe I can help some how.</p><p></p><p>Our son died almost 2 years ago from a heroin overdose. He was 17 years 1 month and 3 days old. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/felttip/sad-very.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":sad-very:" title="sad-very :sad-very:" data-shortname=":sad-very:" /> His behavior started to get really bad. He was punching walls, throwing things, leaving when he wasn't supposed to, left for days, started failing school etc... His life was falling apart and we couldn't understand why. He went to juvy after we called on him for getting physical with my husband. We were trying to help him, even if it meant juvy. He was there for a total of 3 1/2 weeks. He was great for 3 weeks after, then it started all over again. Now he knew what he had to do to stay out of juvy. He was never physical with us again, never punched a wall again, never threw anything again. So it did help curb his temper. When he got to juvy, they drug tested him. It showed pot only. He later said to me "I have no idea how only pot showed up" </p><p></p><p>He finished out his school year, passing a few classes, got a job over the late summer, continued on with alternative high school. He was failing there too. (Alex was extremely bright) Teachers were frustrated with him. At alternative school you are only allowed to miss 6 days of class then the class is dropped. Alex got dropped from three classes and I refused to drive him back and forth to school four times a day. He wouldn't stay at the library or coffee shop in between classes, so he droppped out of school.</p><p></p><p>It was shortly after that the school called me and told me they heard that he was doing heroin. He of course denied it, I believed him. His behavior is still bad, he is grouchy, always gone, but home by curfew most of the time. Now we are noticing things missing from the house. Every game system and game and controller we ever had. My younger sons money, things from our work that he could sell.</p><p></p><p>He finally admitted to me that he was doing heroin when he tried to go cold turkey on his own. IT WAS HORRIBLE. I tried to help as much as I could, I laid in bed with him, rubbed his back, covered him when he was cold, uncovered him when he was hot, gave him aspirin, gave him Nyquil anything I could do to help, nothing helped he just got worse. After 24 hours he was going nuts, so I took him to ER. They sent us to rehab and he was given suboxne for two weeks to block the heroin cravings. It worked, he was drug and withdrawl free in one day. After a few days, he looked at me and said, "Mom, I can't believe I feel normal, and I haven't done any heroin"</p><p></p><p>Now the rehab recommended out-patient rehab, which he refused to do. I couldn't force him,nor his father, nor the people at rehab. I told him he was going to be drug tested every week at home, which he was. I knew that out-patient rehab wouldn't work, he would've gone with many of the kids he was friends with. I did find out that there aren't many in-patient rehabs that will take under 18 year olds but there are some. You can't force anybody into rehab, I called the rehab once and asked if I got my son to the door, will you come to the car and get him in? They said that the person had to willingly walk through the doors. Alex wasn't thinking he needed that, so we couldn't force him, we had to just watch him like a hawk.</p><p></p><p>He balked at the last drug test he took at home, he did pass it though. It was about three weeks after he detoxed. I was just starting to relax ( a little) He was getting nice again, he was going to be trained as food prep at the restaurant where he was a dishwasher at. We weren't worried about school yet because we had to get him through this part.</p><p></p><p>One Saturday night we were out to dinner and he was hanging with these two girls in the neighborhood. (These girls weren't part of the heroin crowd)We came home and the two girls and Alex were getting ready to leave. I asked where they were going, the girls said to our house to watch a movie,(across the street) So I let out a sigh of relief because I knew he was in good company. Alex didn't go with the girls, he had a "friend" come get him, (he had no license) He went and got heroin, he came home by midnight. Went to the basement to go on his computer. He used again, this time his dose was mixed with a lethal dose of fentanyl. My husband found him at 3:00 am. Now my true nightmare began.</p><p></p><p>You have asked what you can do to force him to rehab, sadly nothing. Your son has to want to go. You can make it very miserable for him if he stays at home. No money, no rides, no car, just a mattress in his room, no door on his bedroom, just provide a roof and food. Best is to ask him to leave, because your home will provide him with all of the things he can steal to support his habit.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>You are right in asking him to leave, as scary as that is, but he is no safer at home, and your 7 year old is in more danger if he is home.My son died in the comfort and safety of his home. If your son gets in more trouble that is OK. Maybe if things get real bad for him, he will want to change. That is the only way people clean up their act. THE ONLY WAY.</p><p></p><p>Your son has told you that he detoxed on his own? That is very doubtful in my book. Heroin is terribly addicting, and if was as easy as just wanting to stop, and doing it on their own, we wouldn't have a heroin addiction problem. Your son is using needles, he is hooked. Please know that.</p><p></p><p>If your son is agreeing to outpatient, get him there immediately, he may need inpatient, but they won't send him inpatient till he fails at outpatient. and what if outpatient helps him? I think that if he is willing to go out-patient, get him there immediately, please. I know our insurance company would've covered partial inpatient if he failed at out-patient first.</p><p></p><p>And a big no-no to smoking weed in your home. You have a 7 year old? She can't be around that. She is already going through a lot as you try to save your son from himself. I noticed that my younger son hardly got attention as we were turning it all on Alex, trying to save him. I'm glad you told his friends not to smoke there, who cares if your son is mad.</p><p></p><p>The good kid inside is being kidnapped and held captive by the drugs. The only way to get the good kid back is for your son to be drug free. </p><p></p><p>Remember your daughter through all of this, she is going through more than you may realize.</p><p></p><p>My advice to you is, if your son is willing to go out-patient, keep looking till you find one that will take him.</p><p></p><p>You've come to the right place to look for advice. If you would like to know more about us, please feel free to e-mail me. I'll share whatever I can if it would help you.</p><p></p><p>May peace be with you.</p><p>Lia</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="gottaloveem, post: 131837, member: 1953"] This will be long and I apologize, but I have a lot to say. Hi and welcome to conductdisorders.com So sorry you had to find us. I know how you feel and what you are going through. I wish I could tell you our story ended happily ever after but it is quite the opposite, however maybe I can help some how. Our son died almost 2 years ago from a heroin overdose. He was 17 years 1 month and 3 days old. :2sad: His behavior started to get really bad. He was punching walls, throwing things, leaving when he wasn't supposed to, left for days, started failing school etc... His life was falling apart and we couldn't understand why. He went to juvy after we called on him for getting physical with my husband. We were trying to help him, even if it meant juvy. He was there for a total of 3 1/2 weeks. He was great for 3 weeks after, then it started all over again. Now he knew what he had to do to stay out of juvy. He was never physical with us again, never punched a wall again, never threw anything again. So it did help curb his temper. When he got to juvy, they drug tested him. It showed pot only. He later said to me "I have no idea how only pot showed up" He finished out his school year, passing a few classes, got a job over the late summer, continued on with alternative high school. He was failing there too. (Alex was extremely bright) Teachers were frustrated with him. At alternative school you are only allowed to miss 6 days of class then the class is dropped. Alex got dropped from three classes and I refused to drive him back and forth to school four times a day. He wouldn't stay at the library or coffee shop in between classes, so he droppped out of school. It was shortly after that the school called me and told me they heard that he was doing heroin. He of course denied it, I believed him. His behavior is still bad, he is grouchy, always gone, but home by curfew most of the time. Now we are noticing things missing from the house. Every game system and game and controller we ever had. My younger sons money, things from our work that he could sell. He finally admitted to me that he was doing heroin when he tried to go cold turkey on his own. IT WAS HORRIBLE. I tried to help as much as I could, I laid in bed with him, rubbed his back, covered him when he was cold, uncovered him when he was hot, gave him aspirin, gave him Nyquil anything I could do to help, nothing helped he just got worse. After 24 hours he was going nuts, so I took him to ER. They sent us to rehab and he was given suboxne for two weeks to block the heroin cravings. It worked, he was drug and withdrawl free in one day. After a few days, he looked at me and said, "Mom, I can't believe I feel normal, and I haven't done any heroin" Now the rehab recommended out-patient rehab, which he refused to do. I couldn't force him,nor his father, nor the people at rehab. I told him he was going to be drug tested every week at home, which he was. I knew that out-patient rehab wouldn't work, he would've gone with many of the kids he was friends with. I did find out that there aren't many in-patient rehabs that will take under 18 year olds but there are some. You can't force anybody into rehab, I called the rehab once and asked if I got my son to the door, will you come to the car and get him in? They said that the person had to willingly walk through the doors. Alex wasn't thinking he needed that, so we couldn't force him, we had to just watch him like a hawk. He balked at the last drug test he took at home, he did pass it though. It was about three weeks after he detoxed. I was just starting to relax ( a little) He was getting nice again, he was going to be trained as food prep at the restaurant where he was a dishwasher at. We weren't worried about school yet because we had to get him through this part. One Saturday night we were out to dinner and he was hanging with these two girls in the neighborhood. (These girls weren't part of the heroin crowd)We came home and the two girls and Alex were getting ready to leave. I asked where they were going, the girls said to our house to watch a movie,(across the street) So I let out a sigh of relief because I knew he was in good company. Alex didn't go with the girls, he had a "friend" come get him, (he had no license) He went and got heroin, he came home by midnight. Went to the basement to go on his computer. He used again, this time his dose was mixed with a lethal dose of fentanyl. My husband found him at 3:00 am. Now my true nightmare began. You have asked what you can do to force him to rehab, sadly nothing. Your son has to want to go. You can make it very miserable for him if he stays at home. No money, no rides, no car, just a mattress in his room, no door on his bedroom, just provide a roof and food. Best is to ask him to leave, because your home will provide him with all of the things he can steal to support his habit. You are right in asking him to leave, as scary as that is, but he is no safer at home, and your 7 year old is in more danger if he is home.My son died in the comfort and safety of his home. If your son gets in more trouble that is OK. Maybe if things get real bad for him, he will want to change. That is the only way people clean up their act. THE ONLY WAY. Your son has told you that he detoxed on his own? That is very doubtful in my book. Heroin is terribly addicting, and if was as easy as just wanting to stop, and doing it on their own, we wouldn't have a heroin addiction problem. Your son is using needles, he is hooked. Please know that. If your son is agreeing to outpatient, get him there immediately, he may need inpatient, but they won't send him inpatient till he fails at outpatient. and what if outpatient helps him? I think that if he is willing to go out-patient, get him there immediately, please. I know our insurance company would've covered partial inpatient if he failed at out-patient first. And a big no-no to smoking weed in your home. You have a 7 year old? She can't be around that. She is already going through a lot as you try to save your son from himself. I noticed that my younger son hardly got attention as we were turning it all on Alex, trying to save him. I'm glad you told his friends not to smoke there, who cares if your son is mad. The good kid inside is being kidnapped and held captive by the drugs. The only way to get the good kid back is for your son to be drug free. Remember your daughter through all of this, she is going through more than you may realize. My advice to you is, if your son is willing to go out-patient, keep looking till you find one that will take him. You've come to the right place to look for advice. If you would like to know more about us, please feel free to e-mail me. I'll share whatever I can if it would help you. May peace be with you. Lia [/QUOTE]
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