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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 413051"><p>Oh hugs... no doubt about it this is a really tough position to be in as a parent. I have also been there, with the stealing from us, the drug use, and using our car without our permission. What finally helped me realize we really had to kick him out was that if he could not live in our house and respect our rules, how was he going to do out in society. You really cannot get along in society if you break all the rules and don't respect others or the law. So I felt my letting him continue living with us, with his really bad behavior and obvious drug problem, we were sending him the totally wrong message. I feel if you let your son stay with you, you will also be sending him the wrong message.</p><p></p><p>What is hard is that he is your son and you also love him and I am sure you want him to know that. That is why this situation is so confusing for a parent. So there are ways you can still show him you love him without letting him take complete advantage of you and treat you badly. In our case we texted him, we kept in touch, we took him some clothes and things. He didn't keep in touch with us a whole lot until he got arrested.... but it meant that when he got arrested he still called us. So keep in touch with your son and if he ends up in the hospital he will call you!! And if that happens maybe it will force him to get help for his obvious serious drug problem. Seriously he has a serious drug problem if he is stealing that much.... maybe it is only pot, but it may be more.</p><p></p><p>In our case our son got arrested several times and ended up in jail for two weeks. What a wake up call that was. He ended up in rehab out of state.... and is having his struggles finding a job etc... BUT he has been sober for 5 months which is huge.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 413051"] Oh hugs... no doubt about it this is a really tough position to be in as a parent. I have also been there, with the stealing from us, the drug use, and using our car without our permission. What finally helped me realize we really had to kick him out was that if he could not live in our house and respect our rules, how was he going to do out in society. You really cannot get along in society if you break all the rules and don't respect others or the law. So I felt my letting him continue living with us, with his really bad behavior and obvious drug problem, we were sending him the totally wrong message. I feel if you let your son stay with you, you will also be sending him the wrong message. What is hard is that he is your son and you also love him and I am sure you want him to know that. That is why this situation is so confusing for a parent. So there are ways you can still show him you love him without letting him take complete advantage of you and treat you badly. In our case we texted him, we kept in touch, we took him some clothes and things. He didn't keep in touch with us a whole lot until he got arrested.... but it meant that when he got arrested he still called us. So keep in touch with your son and if he ends up in the hospital he will call you!! And if that happens maybe it will force him to get help for his obvious serious drug problem. Seriously he has a serious drug problem if he is stealing that much.... maybe it is only pot, but it may be more. In our case our son got arrested several times and ended up in jail for two weeks. What a wake up call that was. He ended up in rehab out of state.... and is having his struggles finding a job etc... BUT he has been sober for 5 months which is huge. [/QUOTE]
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