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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember1" data-source="post: 752348" data-attributes="member: 23706"><p>I can not emphasis at what a good point Copa made about college. Sometimes we think college is more important than getting their lives together, not being an alcoholic, not using drugs, being kind, etc.</p><p></p><p> We give our college kids a pass maybe because they are fulfilling a big dream that we have for them. We delude ourselves that college will guarantee our troubled kids a leg up in life, even when they can not do even simple things as in living sober or working at McDonalds or speaking in a civil way to people who love them.</p><p></p><p>College won't help our kids who have no other skills. And plenty of kids without college support themselves just fine. I really don't feel we should give a pass to an adult child just because he or she is "in college", working at Pizza Hut or better or just doing better than before (but still with no attitude change). </p><p></p><p>We made excuses for our daughter for far too long and the outcome was horrible.We need to stop this. I know it's hard. I say this is every post because it is. We grasp at anything. What we need to do is allow them to grow up. Or not. We need to allow consequences.</p><p></p><p>We need to do better for us. This may be the hardest of all things to do.</p><p></p><p>Thanks to Copa once again.</p><p></p><p>God bless everyone.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember1, post: 752348, member: 23706"] I can not emphasis at what a good point Copa made about college. Sometimes we think college is more important than getting their lives together, not being an alcoholic, not using drugs, being kind, etc. We give our college kids a pass maybe because they are fulfilling a big dream that we have for them. We delude ourselves that college will guarantee our troubled kids a leg up in life, even when they can not do even simple things as in living sober or working at McDonalds or speaking in a civil way to people who love them. College won't help our kids who have no other skills. And plenty of kids without college support themselves just fine. I really don't feel we should give a pass to an adult child just because he or she is "in college", working at Pizza Hut or better or just doing better than before (but still with no attitude change). We made excuses for our daughter for far too long and the outcome was horrible.We need to stop this. I know it's hard. I say this is every post because it is. We grasp at anything. What we need to do is allow them to grow up. Or not. We need to allow consequences. We need to do better for us. This may be the hardest of all things to do. Thanks to Copa once again. God bless everyone. [/QUOTE]
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