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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 741403" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Get a restraining order on both. Your daughter orchestrated this and he went along with it and you dont know if its over. Dont guess that it is.</p><p></p><p>I cant speak for anyone else. If this were me and I could afford to do it Id move and I love the idea of a corporate address. There is no safe relationship you can have with this daughter and apparently she used this boyfriend to act out on you. Depending on how serious I thought she was I would possobly legally change my name even if I didnt use the changed name. Then if you move, your name will be different online..</p><p></p><p>Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) is serious. We adopted a foster son who had it and he was the greatest at acting normal and fooling even the psychiatric community and all adults. And he knew how to scare my littles into silence. I have posted this story repeatedly here and am not going to go onto detail now but you can find old posts about him.</p><p></p><p>He killed two of our animals and we found out he was molesting the littles.</p><p></p><p>After that we never saw him again. We didnt want to. Adoption dissolved and he went to a kid prisonfor young sexual predators..i hope he got help. He was just 13 when this all went down. We rebuilt our family but never fostwred or added to our family again because of Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). Luckily our other adopted kids are the best but we got them as infants....our strong marriage and family helped the littles recover. Both are doing well.</p><p></p><p>I know Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) is not a childs fault but it is hard to treat and can cause extremely serious even violent behavior. Sadly common in adopted people especially those adopted older than as an infant.. Drug exposure in utero also changes the brain. That is another risk for abnormal behavior. Our son had it all. It damaged him and we had no interest in risking him with our younger kids or pets again.</p><p></p><p>Do what you have to do to stay safe. If you cant spend to move then maybe you can get a high level security system that covers your property. Carry pepper spray. My daughter works in Corrections and had to be pepper sprayed herself so that she knows how it feels. Not good. It is a deterrent. God hrlp help me, learn to shoot and legally carry a gun. If she is obsessed with weapons and gore....run. This is so not normal.</p><p></p><p>I would have written up a police report on him for a trail. If you dont report him you can not prove he has done this. He could do it again. Take down any social media snd block your daughter in every way. She is the one who wants to harm you. The old man is just her means to do so. He could still be very dangerous though. But she is the one pushing him to do this. She probably lied and said you abused her all her life....so he is being her hero. Ugh. Makes me sick.</p><p></p><p>Do you have any males you can live with? A guard dog? Any cops live near you?</p><p></p><p>If you loved a man who threatened you would you stay? Your daughter is no different. I dont believe this is just blowing off steam and I am not one who feels we should risk our lives for our loved ones. There are people we love who cant love back. Who will harm us. YouYcant save your daughter. You did all you could.</p><p></p><p>Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) is empathy killing but you know that. If you are afraid you have a right to be safe. This is not about the old man. Its her. Her nudging him to do this. He doesnt carr about your life. SHE wants revenge. It is NOT your role to die for her sad illness. Kid or not you dont have to risk harm. Nobody does. Nobody should. This is way beyond her not liking your boundaries. And she does this fake abuse stories to others. Even if this relationship ends, another man will be coaxed to avenge her....it started young. It wont stop.</p><p></p><p>Please think of only you this time. That was serious and scary in my opinion. You must have loved ones and friends who want you safe and well. You matter.</p><p></p><p>Your daughter is very dangerous and sick, like my son was. Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). Sometimes it is unsafe to have anything to do with our beloved kids even though we love them and wish them well. I loved my sister and had to let her go for my well being.</p><p></p><p>Love light and luck! Major prayers!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 741403, member: 1550"] Get a restraining order on both. Your daughter orchestrated this and he went along with it and you dont know if its over. Dont guess that it is. I cant speak for anyone else. If this were me and I could afford to do it Id move and I love the idea of a corporate address. There is no safe relationship you can have with this daughter and apparently she used this boyfriend to act out on you. Depending on how serious I thought she was I would possobly legally change my name even if I didnt use the changed name. Then if you move, your name will be different online.. Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) is serious. We adopted a foster son who had it and he was the greatest at acting normal and fooling even the psychiatric community and all adults. And he knew how to scare my littles into silence. I have posted this story repeatedly here and am not going to go onto detail now but you can find old posts about him. He killed two of our animals and we found out he was molesting the littles. After that we never saw him again. We didnt want to. Adoption dissolved and he went to a kid prisonfor young sexual predators..i hope he got help. He was just 13 when this all went down. We rebuilt our family but never fostwred or added to our family again because of Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). Luckily our other adopted kids are the best but we got them as infants....our strong marriage and family helped the littles recover. Both are doing well. I know Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) is not a childs fault but it is hard to treat and can cause extremely serious even violent behavior. Sadly common in adopted people especially those adopted older than as an infant.. Drug exposure in utero also changes the brain. That is another risk for abnormal behavior. Our son had it all. It damaged him and we had no interest in risking him with our younger kids or pets again. Do what you have to do to stay safe. If you cant spend to move then maybe you can get a high level security system that covers your property. Carry pepper spray. My daughter works in Corrections and had to be pepper sprayed herself so that she knows how it feels. Not good. It is a deterrent. God hrlp help me, learn to shoot and legally carry a gun. If she is obsessed with weapons and gore....run. This is so not normal. I would have written up a police report on him for a trail. If you dont report him you can not prove he has done this. He could do it again. Take down any social media snd block your daughter in every way. She is the one who wants to harm you. The old man is just her means to do so. He could still be very dangerous though. But she is the one pushing him to do this. She probably lied and said you abused her all her life....so he is being her hero. Ugh. Makes me sick. Do you have any males you can live with? A guard dog? Any cops live near you? If you loved a man who threatened you would you stay? Your daughter is no different. I dont believe this is just blowing off steam and I am not one who feels we should risk our lives for our loved ones. There are people we love who cant love back. Who will harm us. YouYcant save your daughter. You did all you could. Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) is empathy killing but you know that. If you are afraid you have a right to be safe. This is not about the old man. Its her. Her nudging him to do this. He doesnt carr about your life. SHE wants revenge. It is NOT your role to die for her sad illness. Kid or not you dont have to risk harm. Nobody does. Nobody should. This is way beyond her not liking your boundaries. And she does this fake abuse stories to others. Even if this relationship ends, another man will be coaxed to avenge her....it started young. It wont stop. Please think of only you this time. That was serious and scary in my opinion. You must have loved ones and friends who want you safe and well. You matter. Your daughter is very dangerous and sick, like my son was. Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). Sometimes it is unsafe to have anything to do with our beloved kids even though we love them and wish them well. I loved my sister and had to let her go for my well being. Love light and luck! Major prayers! [/QUOTE]
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