Walking two miles to the bus won't kill her. In fact, exercise is good for everybody.
My daughter used to act just like your daughter and I often gave in to her demands. I finally learned to say no and it changed my life. You are not responsible for her problems . . . she is. She ignored your suggestion of finding a place to live close to transportation. The natural consequence of that is that she will have to walk two miles to the bus stop.
My therapist helped me understand that my daughter was going to do whatever she wanted to do and there was nothing I could do to change that. All I could do is change my behavior and responses to her behavior.
It sounds like you have come a long way towards detachment. It is very easy to drawn back into their drama and they are experts at manipulation. Don't let her hook you back in.
Her text to her dad speaks volumes.
~Kathy
