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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 731494" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>Hi Mimi44, <a href="https://www.conductdisorders.com/community/members/22991/" target="_blank">Mimi44</a></p><p></p><p>I'm so sorry for what you are going through. Please know that you cannot fix this for your son, he has to choose to want to change.</p><p></p><p></p><p>You are not being mean to him by not bailing him out or wanting to talk to him. Please do not think that as it's just not true. Also, your son is only one part of your life, do not allow his actions to dictate how your live will be.</p><p></p><p>I know the heartache and hurt you feel. I've dealt with my son's chaotic life since he was a teen. He's now 36 and in prison again.</p><p></p><p>Trust me, if love alone could save our difficult adult children we would not need this site. If throwing money at their problems would save them, we would not need this site. There is absolutely nothing we can do to help our difficult adult children. They have to want to change for themselves, they have to want to make better choices for themselves.</p><p></p><p>I have been so far down the rabbit hole with my son I didn't think I would ever be able to be happy or have any kind of life. I am living proof that it can happen. Once I successfully detached from my son I was able to crawl out of the rabbit hole and come out the FOG (fear, obligation, guilt) and take my life back.</p><p>Detaching does not mean we stop loving our difficult adult children, it just means we stop enabling them and allowing them to hold our emotions hostage.</p><p></p><p>You can get through this and it's okay to tell him no.</p><p></p><p>Here is a link to a wonderful article about detachment.</p><p><a href="https://www.conductdisorders.com/community/threads/article-on-detachment.53639/" target="_blank">Article on Detachment</a></p><p></p><p>Keep posting and let us know you are doing.</p><p></p><p>((HUGS))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 731494, member: 18516"] Hi Mimi44, [URL="https://www.conductdisorders.com/community/members/22991/"]Mimi44[/URL] I'm so sorry for what you are going through. Please know that you cannot fix this for your son, he has to choose to want to change. You are not being mean to him by not bailing him out or wanting to talk to him. Please do not think that as it's just not true. Also, your son is only one part of your life, do not allow his actions to dictate how your live will be. I know the heartache and hurt you feel. I've dealt with my son's chaotic life since he was a teen. He's now 36 and in prison again. Trust me, if love alone could save our difficult adult children we would not need this site. If throwing money at their problems would save them, we would not need this site. There is absolutely nothing we can do to help our difficult adult children. They have to want to change for themselves, they have to want to make better choices for themselves. I have been so far down the rabbit hole with my son I didn't think I would ever be able to be happy or have any kind of life. I am living proof that it can happen. Once I successfully detached from my son I was able to crawl out of the rabbit hole and come out the FOG (fear, obligation, guilt) and take my life back. Detaching does not mean we stop loving our difficult adult children, it just means we stop enabling them and allowing them to hold our emotions hostage. You can get through this and it's okay to tell him no. Here is a link to a wonderful article about detachment. [URL="https://www.conductdisorders.com/community/threads/article-on-detachment.53639/"]Article on Detachment[/URL] Keep posting and let us know you are doing. ((HUGS)) [/QUOTE]
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